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I know this may not be the forum but I figured it could potentially tie into a discussion about college life for our members and member's children.

A week after my 15th birthday I woke up to find my parents outside speaking to our next door neighbors, who were sobbing at the end of our driveway. After a few hours of some unsuccessful questioning, my parents finally told me what had happened. My neighbor, 20 year old Lindsey Bonistall, was the victim of a brutal rape and murder at her off-campus apartment at the University of Delaware in the early morning hours of May 1, 2005. A man broke into her apartment, committed the heinous crimes, stole her belongings, lit the apartment on fire and left.

The events that unfolded in the next few weeks were images that will remain with me for the rest of my life. A nationwide manhunt began for the killer, one that even involved America's Most Wanted (they found him and put him into custody about a month after the crime). An entire neighborhood came together in an attempt to grieve and console the close-knit family in some way. News reporters from every major outlet in the area would come wrapping on the door at all times during the day to try to gain any kind of information from someone that may be more knowledgeable about the case than they were.

More than six years after Lindsey's death, her memory stays with us daily. Her older sister got married last year and is pregnant with her first child. Her two cousins that she was very close with both graduated from college and have excellent jobs. Everything that has happened around us are things that would have made her happy, and things she'd have been proud of.

Today her legacy is carried on through a charity known as "PEACEOUTside Campus". Her sign off in Internet conversations and text messages was "Peace Out" and thus her parents thought it'd be a fitting name. PEACEOUTside Campus is a foundation geared towards raising awareness for off-campus housing safety at colleges nationwide. Thus far, we've been able to raise several hundred thousand dollars towards the cause, and are looking to raise much more into the future.

PEACEOUTside Campus runs several events throughout the year, but one event is the culmination of all of the effort. There is a 5K run/walk in Lindsey's honor every October. This year's is October 23...next sunday...at Purchase College in New York.

I would greatly appreciate if you would take a few minutes of your time to view the webpage for the charity and read what it is all about. A donation would be absolutely outstanding, although I don't wish anyone to feel obligated to do something like that. Any awareness for the cause is a positive attribute and can assist in moving the process in the right direction for the future.

http://www.peaceoutsidecampus.org/

Thanks!
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Geez, about an hour ago, my wife came home from visiting my daughter who goes to college just about 30 miles from our home. My wife was concerned because our daughter works at the university dining commons and has to walk ten minutes at night to an off-campus area to save on parking. She is 20. You definitely struck a nerve.
It's very good of you to be a voice for such a cause.
(and, yes, we'll be discussing the parking arrangement)
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cabbagedad- At my school there are blue emergency lights on campus. Each light is within eyesight of each other so as to ensure that in an emergency, a student would be able to have a light in visibility and go to it.

In Lindsey's case, the backdoor to her apartment was lodged open and that is where the man entered from.

Your daughter's case is not uncommon, and there are preventative measures in order to maintain a sense of safety in everyday life. These methods that have been developed and encouraged by PEACEOUTside Campus are methods that will ensure safety without crossing the threshold of paranoia.
JH --- thanks for the post. I lost a niece in a similar fashion, in 1984, she was training on her military base at the time. One would think you are safe on a military base ....


We are going to visit my 19-year-old d. at parent's weekend this weekend, she too has an off campus job. I'll be sure to double check with her about how cautious she is, and remind her that it is OK to spend cab fare at night, or to ask a male co-worker to walk her back.

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