Coach Speak

SplendidSplinter - welcome to the hsbbweb!

I don't see any ethical problems here. All they did was ask that he hold off. The decision is your son's alone however. If it were me personally, I might move on to pursue other offers but then again, the school asking you to wait might be his dream school. If that is the case, you might be willing to accept more risk. These will always end up being personal decisions.

It's not unusual. Put them on YOUR B and C list.

Not unusual but I would not listen to their advice. You need to do what is in the best interest of your son and not wait for them. If anything use it to your advantage and let that college know what offers your son is getting and his interest in those colleges and maybe the college that he talk with will get a little more active.

Thank you for all of your insight.

It is frustrating because this particular college is son's #1 choice. A "no" would have been Ok. I wish the coaches would have been more upfront and realistic. We could have gone on to option B or C knowing that there was no chance instead of this "maybe" hanging in the air.

There is something about "going where you are wanted" that makes sense. It is just something you are going to have to weigh.

SplendidSplinter, if the school is your son's top choice, I would encourage you to contact the head coach via email and write him seomething like this:

Dear Coach Smith,

My son John greatly enjoyed visiting with you and your staff in November and is excited about the prospect of playing for your program. While this is great news, I will admit that I have concerns about your asking him to hold off on committing to another program since you did not make him an offer yourself.

From my limited perspective, it seems as if he is your second or third choice and you are waiting to see if your first choice prospect commits. If this is the case, I would appreciate your filling us in on a timeline that will better help us know what to expect (i.e., a deadline you have given your top prospect or your plan for moving on to your next choice if your top prospect ends up committing elsewhere).

Cranford University is my son's top choice, but I don't want him to squander other opportunities to play if he will ultimately not end up getting an offer from you. I would appreciate any insight you can provide that will help us in assessing the situation and making a decision.

Respectfully,
Mike/Brenda Jones

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Originally posted by SplendidSplinter:
I wish the coaches would have been more upfront and realistic.

Actually, they were. They were very realistic in their own recruiting needs, which is what their job is.

You are being strung along. The reason has already been explained. Now it's up to you to decide if that course is appropriate for you and Junior. It's neither black and white, nor easy.

Do you mark time and wait, or move ahead. It's your ball, good luck.

Infield,

Thank you,that is a good idea. Just didn't know how the HC would take correspondence from a parent.

SplendidSplinter, most coaches wouldn't be offended by a parent contacting them, but if you think this guy will, have your son email him using much the same language. Let us know how things turn out!