The prior post on "Control/Blame" started me thinking about the Congressional Hearings yesterday and, particularly, the comments made by a father of a boy who committed suicide allegedly due to steroid abuse.
It seemed to me that his comments were typically dysfunctional insofar as he seemed to blame the ballplayers for the death of his son. Now, I'm not advocating that ANYONE use steroids, and I certainly sympathize with anyone who loses a child, but this man's "activism" seems too convenient and too late. Blame the professional ballplayers, none of whom even knew his son, much less lived with him? His vehemence on the issue (calling the players "cowards," etc.), rung hollow with me and seemed symptomatic of the "society of victims" attitude permeating this country today.
If this father wanted to be an "activist," why now, when its too late? Presumably, he LIVED with his son, had opportunities to see changes in his son's behavior and, maybe, physique. He COULD have questioned his son, his son's friends, teachers, or coaches. If the answers he was getting didn't "add up," he COULD have searched his son's room, gym bag, book bag, and/or car. If ANY suspicions remained, he COULD have submitted his son to blood tests and, ultimatley, committed to a drug rehabilitation center.
In short, he COULD have taken an active oversight role AS A PARENT and made it HIS business to become involved in the affairs of his child. It struck me that he seemed to absolve himself by blaming the tragedy on total strangers. Blaming professional ballplayers is no substitute, IMO, for parental vigilence.
I'm sorry, but in a matter as important as my children, I don't expect some overpaid (and routinely undereducated) professional ballplayer, NOR Congress, to be even "my brother's keeper," much less my son's.
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