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One of the things I still struggle with - I try to let son ask all the questions and handle his business, but how well can a young 17yo conduct such an interview with a HC when he is nervous about talking to him? He's had a few discussions and done pretty well but forgot to ask some pertinent questions.
cabbagedad, your post is such a good one this time of year. It is important.
The JC illustration shows the need to be continuously getting better, to never be satisfied, and that coaches are always trying to get the best players.
For the d3/entering freshman, I personally think the discussions are most effectively held when they are face to face and during a weekend visit. During those discussions, there is ample time for a recruit to become more relaxed and most coaches who want a recruit want to help them know they are wanted. On a weekend visit, nearly every coach will allocate plenty of time to speak with them. The higher the recruit, the more time available. The meetings on a Sunday of a visit are usually a very good time for the parent to also be involved. The coach who is speaking with a top recruit wants that player, and his parents, to leave with the best impression possible.
Once that visit occurs, I don't think there are any issues with the parent talking with the Coach, if that is needed.
I also firmly believe that visit must include a time when your son can see the team on the field in a highly competitive situation. Our sons need to see and visualize if he can compete at whatever level he is seeing.
Our son did his visit alone. I know others have parents who join the visit.
For our son, when he was being recruited and now that he is recruiting, the goal wasn't/isn't the roster. The goal is to be recruiting those who are hungry to play and to compete for playing time, and for the discussion to be about what that takes/what is that process and for both to be committed as close to 100% as possible.
While I have never asked any coach, or our son, directly, I truly would wonder if a competitive college coach at any level would consider the question of a "roster spot" as a positive.
I don't know the answer.
By this, as BOF and others have posted, I want to emphasize that good D3 college baseball is about competing. Honestly, nothing is guaranteed.
Good college coaches might well vary in whether they would feel positive about a potential recruit if the impression is created the player is competing for slot #35, rather than being hungry and competing/working for playing time his freshman year.
I want to emphasize I don't know the answer to the question posed by Tx-Husker.
I understand the parental aspect of wanting assurances and/or a level of comfort.
There just isn't much comfort or many assurances in college athletics.
Playing time depends on talent, skill, drive, willingness to sacrifice and compete, and get better every day, all the while doing the same in the classroom...and then do it better the next season until all 3 or 4 seasons come to an end.