Do I say Something or keep my mouth shut?

As a parent you stay out of it. Your son was mature enough to leave and that shows that you have done a great job with him. The players need to take some responsibility and clean this mess up. In a good program the players take care of these problems without talking to the coach.

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You hit the nail on the head--at the HS level the kids should be able to monitor themselves---my guy used to always take his car to parties and not ride with others so as to not be trapped with a kid who may be drinking

What if the players with the beer are seniors and the ones who do not want to partake are underclassmen? Let's face reality, the juniors and
sophomores are not likely to say anything to the vets for fear of retaliation and as much as we would all like to think our sons will step
up and take charge, it's just not going to happen. And even if it does happen in some rare instances, what about you as a parent knowing players
are drinking and saying nothing about it?

Players are not going to "rat" on their teammates, and most will not confront older players. What then?

This is a difficult situation. We faced a similar situation a couple of years ago. It didn't involve son's baseball team, but it did involve one of our son's best friends. The friend offered to give my wife a ride home from a birthday party. When she got in the car she discovered a number of beer bottle caps. A year prior to this, we attended a funeral of some friends who had lost their graduating senior to an alcohol-induced car wreck. As it turned out we had been wondering why our son had stopped spending time with this individual. Our son had been limiting his contact because of the drinking. We discussed whether to inform the boy's parents and decided it was "the right thing to do". We didn't want to see our son's friend in a coffin, or a victim of a crash. Well, although it was the right thing to do, my wife's "ratting" on the boy ended up damaging the friendship that my wife and the boy's mother had enjoyed for a number of years. The young man has been in and out of treatment programs since that time. I think we'd do the same if we faced the same situation again, but it does have its consequences.

I think, as Bizazz alluded to, that informing the parents is a much better protocol than informing the coach. Then it would be the parents decision as to whether or not they want to inform the coach.

If I was the coach, I would rather deal with it now, rather than in the middle of a spring break tourney suspending 3 or 4 starters the rest of the year for trashing a hotel room.

It happens every year.

I would not approach the coach. He will have to verify the story and your son will be drawn into it. It would then represent a type of negative reinforcement for a good choice. Instead, if you know the player's family, I would find a time to bring this up without being judgemental. Most parents caught in this situation want to get defensive first although, many if not most know the truth and come around to recognize it. If you are not comfortable, please be sure to tell your son how proud you are of him. I might also make this suggestion, you might talk to your son about everything that player and his team will endure should that player get caught. THIS SUBJECT IS NEVER EASY. IT IS AN EVERYDAY HAPPENING IN AMERICA.

BTW, I had this same talk with a parent the other day about creatine. (While legal, this parent doesn't think that the parents of the other kid know what is going on. Tough call!)

Good post coach!

My advice stay out of it. Your son made the right decision. It is sort of ****ed if you do as your son would get caught in the middle and ****ed if you dont as somewhere down the line they will get caught.

Think if you went to the coach with this your son would end up being inadvertantly punished for making a good decision. We had the same situation and we just reinforced to son that he made the right decision and we were proud of him...if he is mature enough to make the right choices....then he is mature enough to follow up as he sees fit....we stayed out of it.