Does looking the other way , encourage bad behavior

IMO, as a player, these things shouldn't happen. If someone has a problem you can't shoo it away just because they are a prospect. It was their mistake and their stupidity that they got themselves into it originally. They should know the consequences are higher when the stakes are higher. I know I might sound harsh, but if they can't take the responsibility that comes with doing something stupid, they don't deserve to be drafted or whatever anyway.

Summer coaches and HS coaches don't have the kind of influence to get the law to drop charges against kids.......anywhere.

I've been following a story about a high profile HS wrestler from NM who crashed his car during the summer. He not only failed the field sobriety test, but he blew a 0.21! The DUI trial has been delayed by his uncle/lawyer. The school suspended him, but the kid appealed on a technicality and got a stay. He claims that his full ride to VA Tech will be rescinded if he's not allowed to wrestle his senior year. He's still wrestling, of course. His mom and uncle went public and claimed he's a good boy who never got into trouble of any kind. But a .21! I'm thinking that was not the kid's first cerveza.
I'm wondering what kind of coach would stipulate, with all of the controversy, that the scholly is only good if he can finish the HS season in good standing. Then again, it might just be a ploy. The scholly may already have been pulled back and the kid is trying to salvage what's left of his HS career.
I'd hate to be the one that had to tell the rest of the wrestling team that all of their dedication, hard work, and good decisions... well that stuff really doesn't matter after all.
I'm a big believer in second chances. I probably wouldn't be here today without a few of my own. But sweeping something like this under the carpet is a horible example to set for young people. And yes, Frank, it probably does encourage more bad behavior.

I don't know if it encourages bad behavior, but it definately enables bad behavior. It teaches the kids that despite their actions, there are no consequences.

In HS, my son was a top football player. At the homecoming dance, a girl in his limo got fall-down drunk and the driver reported it to the school officials and the entire car was forced to leave the dance early and be driven home. Now, I'm not naive enough to think he wasn't drinking, but if he was, he was discreet about it. Anyway, I was all worried that he was going to be in trouble and kicked off the team or something because of the "No Tolerance" pledge that athletes sign-they aren't even supposed to be at parties where alcohol is served. Long story short, I call the principal on Monday to clarify the situation and he tells me not to worry because they know that one of the top athletes in the school would never behave like that.

Come on, give me a break. He's a good kid, but he's a senior at homecoming- of course he was drinking. But because he is a star athlete, they give him the benefit of the doubt and don't investigate him, but others in the limo got in trouble at school.

Just look at Terrel Owens. Very few people have ever told him "No" and when they did, someone else came right in behind them and told him it was "OK".

I agree with you, Grateful, especially minor's dui charges and dope charges.

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Does looking the other way , encourage bad behavior?

Kids are not stupid. Adults are not stupid. People(you dont have to be a kid) do with what you let them do. Enable? Encourage? Sort of splitting hairs here.

I have to agree with gratefull as well. But as far as the question , it sure doesn't discourage bad behavior.

If summer coach's and high school coach's don't have the pull to get kids off of these charges, then someone does because it is happening. Prospects from all sports have been pampered and protected by parents, principles, "boosters", university staff and law enforcement. If you don't think so your wearing blinders. By the way,PFBear13, you believe your son was drinking. Did you impart with any punishments or discipline? Just curious. Being a senior at homecoming makes it illegal to drink.

I wasn't awake when he got home and at the time, he said he wasn't drinking. Since I could only speculate he was drinkng, I couldn't punish him.

He insists he took his pledge seriously and honored it and with no evidence to the contrary, I believe him, but HS wasn't all that long ago for me that I don't remember homcoming dances.

Re: the original question

The answer is so obvious the question need not be asked.

I asked my son about the rules at college and he said it was zero tolerance.
He is of legal age here in Canada and he might have a drink when he is at a bar with friends but we always are up when he comes home (my wife) and he has never seemed intixicated. He usually comes into our bedroom and chats for a bit before hitting the sac. I am a ***** cat compared to my wife. I credit her for the strong discipline she has instilled in our 3 children. You can't get anything past her. All 3 are open about how they feel about people who use drugs and abuse alcohol.

This might wake up a few people. During my senior year in high school. A number of teachers mentioned to the senior class, we know you guys might attending senior parties and be careful, dont drive if you have been drinking. A nearby high school last year had 3 people killed right before graduation and they said the cermony was more of a memorial than a graduation.

3 sudents had already been killed that year from an car accident caused by drinking.

During our graduation we learned that morning a graduating senior crashed into a tree after he been drinking and killed.Everyone learned of it at graduation. His best friend accepted his diploma for him.

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Originally posted by Frank Martin:
This might wake up a few people. During my senior year in high school. A number of teachers mentioned to the senior class, we know you guys might attending senior parties and be careful, dont drive if you have been drinking. A nearby high school last year had 3 people killed right before graduation and they said the cermony was more of a memorial than a graduation.

3 students had already been killed that year from an car accident caused by drinking.

During our graduation we learned that morning a graduating senior crashed into a tree after he been drinking and killed.Everyone learned of it at graduation. His best friend accepted his diploma for him.