What's the best way to handle a situation where your son is throwing too many pitches in the high school season? How should the player approach the coaches? And at what point do you step in as a parent?
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quote:Originally posted by sportsmomof2:
Would over 250 in less than 7 days be too many?
You are not your son's agent. Your son should talk to the coach. All you should do is help your son with what he's going to say.quote:And at what point do you step in as a parent?
quote:Originally posted by Coach May:
You know what usually happens in these types of situations? The player is a player he wants to win and he loves to compete. He wants to pitch and he will go till his arm falls off if it thats what it takes to help his team win. That is what he is taught to do. He knows he has thrown a ton of pitches and he knows he probably should come out. But the competitive drive to win and the never quit attitude that makes him what he is kicks in and he is not going to take himself out. The parent knows the kid has thrown too many pitches. But they dont want to step on anyones shoes. They dont want to black ball their kid or cause any ill feelings with the coaches. So they sit there cringing at every pitch and praying he will not grab his elbow or shoulder at some point and time during the game. The "coach" says "He's a Bulldog , he's strong as a mule , he was getting stronger as the game went on."
quote:2 complete games 6 days apart and he is a position player as well and had 2 additional games in between.
It is time to sit down and have a long talk with our son.
quote:Originally posted by sportsmomof2:quote:Originally posted by Coach May:
You know what usually happens in these types of situations? The player is a player he wants to win and he loves to compete. He wants to pitch and he will go till his arm falls off if it thats what it takes to help his team win. That is what he is taught to do. He knows he has thrown a ton of pitches and he knows he probably should come out. But the competitive drive to win and the never quit attitude that makes him what he is kicks in and he is not going to take himself out. The parent knows the kid has thrown too many pitches. But they dont want to step on anyones shoes. They dont want to black ball their kid or cause any ill feelings with the coaches. So they sit there cringing at every pitch and praying he will not grab his elbow or shoulder at some point and time during the game. The "coach" says "He's a Bulldog , he's strong as a mule , he was getting stronger as the game went on."
This really describes the situation my son was in last week. He wanted to finish the game and I do hold him responsible as well - but I feel like we should be able to trust the coaches to do the right thing too.
Dad04 hit the nail on the head too, as his performance was somewhat lacking in the next outing. All of the pitches, were from 2 complete games 6 days apart and he is a position player as well and had 2 additional games in between.
It is time to sit down and have a long talk with our son.
quote:Originally posted by TRhit:
As much as I care for kids arms I think we have become too soft---many arms are not ready for the rigors of college ball much minor league baseball.
quote:Originally posted by TRhit:
I dont know why it is but our kids let us know when they are done on the mound---sometimes they are "soft" but most times they are accurate and sometimes we push them a little because they are so attuned to limited innings and pitches they do not know how to extend themselves in a proper fashion--we like to think we have a great relationship with our kids and we can all speak openly with each other and I truly think that helps
As much as I care for kids arms I think we have become too soft---many arms are not ready for the rigors of college ball much minor league baseball.
quote:We were very lucky during HS and the coach started off with 50/60 pitches and progressed to 70/80 and 90/100 over the first three or four weeks of the season so that by the end of the first month he had all the starters getting to 100 pitches. The last month of the season I saw 125 to 130 or so pitches on the top guys.
One RULE OF THUMB we always used however was one hour rest for each game time pitch, 100 pitches 100 hundred hours to next game time pitch, give or take a couple of hours.
By high school it's time for parents to stop holding their kid's hand. It's time for the kid to start standing up for himself. There's no reason why a kid can't tell the coach his arm isn't built up for that many pitches over the time period. If the coach doesn't like it and doesn't pitch him, the kid doesn't have to worry about abuse and will still pitch on his travel team.quote:"And at what point do you step in as a parent? "
"You are not your son's agent."
You are your childs parent.