Sometimes being in the midst of something makes it hard to see the forest for the trees. Last year, my son's team went 27 & 0 in the regular season, and then lost at State. They were far and away the best team in the tournament, but they couldn't close it out. In retrospect, it may have been good to lose a game or two along the way. Honestly, we as parents fall into the trap of sweating the small stuff, and this situation is truly "small stuff". I fairly confident that the kids care far less about this than you do, and although there may be one or two that don't, this will probably help the team in the long run. For one, the boys aren't stupid. They know who gives them the best chance to win. If they didn't, they know now. So it will help in the long run.
soulslam55 posted:I've read this thread 2x today but I'm still a little confused. TEam is 10-2 right? I'm pretty sure 99% of coaches would take that anyday. Maybe in game number 5 coach saw his starters getting a little tired, who knows? He most likely had his reasons, and at 10-2 has every right to them.
As for the "bleacher coaches"...last Saturday was first scrimmage for 2016' HS team. I said hello to most of the returning parental units then went down the line and stood by myself to watch as I always do. I did notice that some of the new dads had some opinions on the team. They will learn.
We start our season this Saturday (that is if we don't get snow, tornado or something worse). I will be doing exactly what you and so many have stated on here: parking my butt down the 3rd base or 1st base line. I'm going to enjoy his first varsity season without those distractions.
I've coached for a very long time. I can't speak for all areas but can speak for my school. Long story short, if I don't win, I get fired. I make the choices for who plays and who we play. I have to live with that. Parents and players will come and go. It is my name on my program and the critics can judge sitting in the stands and no one knows whether they are right or wrong on all of their choices since that critic will never admit to how many times that they are wrong.
Honestly, we as parents fall into the trap of sweating the small stuff, and this situation is truly "small stuff".
Back in high school the coach treated my son in a way I, as a coach thought was inappropriate. My son told me he was already past it. It's just who the coach is. So forget about it. I figured if my son wasn't bothered why should I. Unfortunately too many of the parents got upset with things the coach did that didn't bother their son. The coach had personality issues. From dealing with it every day in practice and games the kids learned to cope with it. The parents saw it twice a week and freaked out.
I had to deal with a parent in another sport over an incident that blew my mind that they were ticked off over. What made it worse is when I met with them they said "I wasn't too upset until I talked to some other parents who said they wouldn't take it and do something about it."
I looked at him and said "so you weren't upset until someone told you to be upset?" They figured it out after that and meeting was over.