When we started, we didn't know what we didn't know. We thought that playing on a higher-level organization travel team was better than playing on a local travel team coached by dads who didn't know anything. We thought playing better competition was important experience for my son's high-school team. We didn't know, even freshman and sophomore year of high school, that we should be thinking about college recruiting. And obviously, if our son had been a top D1 talent, someone would have told us. We stumbled our way through, doing the occasional showcase because a high-school or travel coach recommended it. Did a local college camp because it sounded like fun. Kept doing PBR showcases without really knowing why. Kept paying the travel organization because the baseball was fun and challenging. Travel coach said "could be mid-major D1" - that's what they say when they know you're not yet D1. We didn't know that either. Didn't find HSBBW until spring of junior year, then I read like crazy. It turned out o.k., but you could say that a lot of the money we spent was not necessary.
I only felt really cheated once, that was a showcase, had to stay overnight, son ran the best 60 he had ever done . . . but they mixed up his number with the guy he ran next to, so then his outstanding round of fielding, no-one cared. In hindsight, I do wish I had asked for our money back! I wonder about college camps - if they said, "come to our camp and learn something," would people still come, if they didn't think it was about recruiting? I think we would have - in fact, I think that's what we did (he had gone to that camp as a little kid, we didn't really know the difference).
I agree with what $howball says to some extent, but as I see it, the problem isn't the actual events, each of which has benefit for a particular small group. It's that all of these companies, camps, etc. make their money off people's ignorance, and thus have no reason at all to enlighten them; in fact, have every reason not to enlighten them. I'm guessing that if PBR said, "you don't need to go to go to a showcase unless you have D1 measurables," they would lose most of their business. Or if PG said it about WWBA. HSBBW can enlighten people, as in this thread, but only if you find it in time.