Junior Days

If Mother's Day is a bigger deal than checking out the school, no.

There will be other Mother's days, but there might not be another invite.

My answer was sort of tongue-in-cheek of course. It's a no-brainer.

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I say tell mom your taking her on a trip....

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I have always believed that Mother's Day is one of those very commercialized Hallmark holidays and we don't celebrate it. Mother's Day can be any day and often is! (I'm a mom!)

Mothers Day is every day as far as I am concerned

When I was running youth leagues I used Mothers Day as a day for the Granparents to come up and see the kids play their sport, whichever it was

Great way to get the family together

Speaking as a mom, there is no other place I would rather be than checking out one of my sons potential colleges and watching a baseball game.

I do NOT believe that "Mothers Day is every day..." I don't think it is a "no-brainer" or I wouldn't have asked the question... what I do believe is...

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Originally posted by StatManLV:
There will be other Mother's days, but there might not be another invite.

On the other hand, there will also be other Junior days - probably at that school...

I, for one, would not encourage my son to go off to a college visit over mother's day weekend - and I question if I would want him to play for a college coach that couldn't understand family coming first.

Assuming that Mother's day matters in your family, I would have your son call and explain why he cannot make that date and ask if there is an alternative date - or set up a 1 on 1 visit over the summer.

BTW - this is not just speculation on my part - my son is not attending his summer team "optional" (but not really) workout this sunday in order to be a part of the family celebration of my wife / his mother.

Just a hunch, 08Dad... but I just bet your son grows up to be a great father/dad, also!

08dad...will there be other Junior days at that school while her son is still a junior? It's May Dude..

So make your own Junior day... schedule your own one on one trip - I bet the coach has a mother...

I guess what I meant by no-brainer was that it's a no-brainer for me, and I'm sure many other parents who are ensconced in the youth/high school/college baseball culture. When my son was 7 years old his grandmother asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. His answer was "a baseball player of course!", Then he looked at me and asked "I can be a baseball player, right Dad?" I promised him that day that as long as he continued to work hard at it, that I would do everything in my power to keep helping him get to the next level. There have been a lot of sacrifices, I mean, spring thru autumn are not our own, not to mention lessons and workouts all winter. Holidays, Mothers Day, Memorial Day, Fathers Day, July 4th, ect...were just days. But I wouldn't trade it for anything because I'm keeping my promise and having a blast at the same time! Right now, 10 years after "the promise", the next level is college and my son continues to enjoy the game and work hard. So, in the name of full disclosure (I don't want to be a part of a scandal! ) my son had to respectfully decline a Junior Day invite to a Big East school he's totally enamored with. The reason? His HS team is playing a make-up double header on the same day. I think I can say with confidence that baseball is the one and only reason he would have declined such an invitation. Sorry for the trip down Memory Lane.

And the coach at that school will appreciate your sons loyalty to his team---

Not a problem... PopTime. Since I have a non-baseball playing son, I worry a LOT that we as a family spend too much time focusing on baseball. As parents, we try to balance the amount spent on baseball vs the amount of other family time. While I certainly realize that family time can be spent at the ball park, I would hate to look back someday and realize that our oldest son felt neglected during those years. It's a very fine we walk... trying to help our youngest son realize his "dream" vs spending quality time with our eldest son!

momandcpa, I'm not trying to be argumentative but I just don't want you to miss what I think is a very important point or two. The most important I believe is that 1 1/2 years from now, hopefully, this recruiting process will be over for you and your baseball son. The finish line is in sight! Once he's enrolled and on a roster, a lot of what happens to him baseball-wise will be out of your hands anyway. I think at that point and probably sooner you'll have plenty of time to devote to your older son. Does your older son have interests that are under the same kind of time constraints (recruiting period) as baseball son? If not, I'd sit him down if he's feeling neglected and explain the situation. Don't you think he'd understand? It's tough to balance, I get that. Believe me, I've had more to balance in the past few years than I'd wish on anyone. Anyway, I wish you luck in whatever choices you make with this dilemma.

My son was invited to the same Junior Day, and because of distance (we're a few states away) and the fact that he has a doubleheader the day before, he could not attend. He immediately emailed the coach, told him the situation, and got a great email back saying that we should call anytime to try to arrange another time to come. Most coaches are quite understanding, and I can't imagine too many coaches holding it against a kid for not coming to a Junior Day on Mother's Day, or because of games, or things like that.

My son emailed the coach as well but has yet to receive a reply. Oh oh!

It's the ultimate test, Pop. . .Mother's Day or Junior Day.

All I know is this, when I was President of a league for 2 years, and I was told in no uncertain terms that if I ever scheduled any type of game, regular or makeup, for Mother's Day, I would be found flying from the flagpole. Funny, that same threat never appeared for Father's Day!

UPDATE... My son and his dad went today to the Junior Day. Guess only time will tell if it was imperative that he attend. I, on the other hand, stayed at home with my eldest son home from college and went to a movie and lunch.

The somewhat surprising and impressive thing was... the head coach was very apologetic about scheduling the Junior Day on Mother's Day and said it was a mistake. He indicated that his wife was extremely disappointed in him!

Thanks for closing the loop - always nice to know how things ended...

I have to be honest. I too believe that Mother's day is a Hallmark holiday. I love my mother dearly, but she knows that every day of the year. Mothers day is really just a reminder of that.

I have never heard anyone complain that many of the biggest tournaments of the year are on Memorial day weekend, quite possibly the most important holiday in America. You would be reading this post in German if not for the heroes celebrated on that day.

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Originally posted by momandcpa:
The somewhat surprising and impressive thing was... the head coach was very apologetic about scheduling the Junior Day on Mother's Day and said it was a mistake. He indicated that his wife was extremely disappointed in him!

Was that conveyed to your son while there?

He said it to the whole group...

we played on mothers day through the years,i found it helpful to bring flowers for the kids to give to mom.come to think of it, didn't work all the time.that might explain the dirty looks i still get.

Awwww.... but, it was still a very nice thought!