Its an old scouting question, but which is it for you? What is the stronger feeling? Why?
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Winning can be anti-climatic. Losing always stinks.
Probably both, equally. I turn everything in our house into a competition and I HATE to lose, but you know what...I really LOVE to win!
I'm getting older, so I'm not going to compete with the younger guys on a field/court anymore, but I'm still competing in other areas. At home playing the family in board games, cards, ping-pong, free throw shooting contest in the driveway, Wii games, etc...I want to Win.
My wife and I bought the DVD series of '24' last year. At each commercial break the clock for '24' is ticking at a certain time to let you know where they're at on the day/night in the series. We'd have a contest to see who could come closer to the time on the '24' clock after the commercial breaks...I owned her!
My family went to a ball game last Friday night, and it was pretty cold. Before jumping in the vehicle after the game, our family bets on what the temperature will read after five minutes on the road...it's pretty funny! We'll also bet on how long it will take to get home, I love that one, since I'm the driver!
I'm getting older, so I'm not going to compete with the younger guys on a field/court anymore, but I'm still competing in other areas. At home playing the family in board games, cards, ping-pong, free throw shooting contest in the driveway, Wii games, etc...I want to Win.
My wife and I bought the DVD series of '24' last year. At each commercial break the clock for '24' is ticking at a certain time to let you know where they're at on the day/night in the series. We'd have a contest to see who could come closer to the time on the '24' clock after the commercial breaks...I owned her!
My family went to a ball game last Friday night, and it was pretty cold. Before jumping in the vehicle after the game, our family bets on what the temperature will read after five minutes on the road...it's pretty funny! We'll also bet on how long it will take to get home, I love that one, since I'm the driver!
LOL bsbl ... When I worked in a high rise we bet on the elevators like it was a horse race.
I think my kids are a lot like I was. They've played on some very successful teams. First they LOVE to play and LOVE to compete. They EXPECT to win and HATE to lose. I've seen them shake off loses in minutes when they knew the effort was there. I've seen them quietly upset when they felt the team didn't perform to expectations and lost.
Last week we went to dinner after a game my son was sullen the entire time. He finally blurted out, "I can't believe we lost to them. I can't believe I took a called third (he had two extra base hits)." I asked him if he was better now ... "No!" It took having to focus on homework to settle him down.
I think my kids are a lot like I was. They've played on some very successful teams. First they LOVE to play and LOVE to compete. They EXPECT to win and HATE to lose. I've seen them shake off loses in minutes when they knew the effort was there. I've seen them quietly upset when they felt the team didn't perform to expectations and lost.
Last week we went to dinner after a game my son was sullen the entire time. He finally blurted out, "I can't believe we lost to them. I can't believe I took a called third (he had two extra base hits)." I asked him if he was better now ... "No!" It took having to focus on homework to settle him down.
I expect to win. I hate to lose.
I don't care as long as my pitcher did his job. 
Seriously, like the expect the win and hate to lose stuff.
Seriously, like the expect the win and hate to lose stuff.
There have been studies about this very question. If I had any energy left today, I might try to Google them, but I don't. The finding was that the pain of losing is more intense than the joy of winning. (OK, now that I'm thinking about it, such studies might have been called "Defeat really is agony" or something like that.) In fact, winning didn't really feel joyful, more like relief.
The worst type of loss is against a team you're expected to beat. The best win is against a team that's expected to beat you.
The worst type of loss is against a team you're expected to beat. The best win is against a team that's expected to beat you.
I think I'm more of a hate to lose guy. Once upon a time winning a baseball game was one of the best feelings I could experience, and losing was the worst. I still feel the same about a loss, but I think the elation of winning has eased up a bit. I just think you get to a point (HS, college) where you are expected to win and it rubs off on you.
I hate to lose and love to win. Everybody always forgets who came in second.
I hate to lose. I take losing much more personally than I do winning. When I lose at a game I feel like the other person is looking down at me, like they are better than me. Not just at the game but a better person. I don't feel the opposite when I win. Sounds kinda crazy but that's how I perceive it.
Maybe that's why I got so many technical fouls when I played basketball. I think I just had a break through!!
Maybe that's why I got so many technical fouls when I played basketball. I think I just had a break through!!
I didn't say earlier, but I'm a 'hate to lose' guy.
Winning feels really, really good...but losing feels absolutely horrible.
Winning feels really, really good...but losing feels absolutely horrible.
I remember having this discussion a few year back with some guys. One guy said he thinks it's equal to him. My dad spoke up and said nope it has to be one or the other and the guy said he couldn't pick one. Dad said its simple how do you feel about a tie? If you think it's good your a hate to lose if you hate ties your a love to win.
Don't know how accurate that is but it made sense to me. I always though I was a hate to lose guy till I looked at it that way.
Don't know how accurate that is but it made sense to me. I always though I was a hate to lose guy till I looked at it that way.
I think I hate to lose more than I love to win. Even if you win, there are still areas of the game you can work on. My son has pitched games where he has had many, many people come up to he or I saying how great a game he has pitched. When we get home, he will say that he didn't feel like he pitched that well, even though the results were good. If you lose, it just stinks whether you played good or bad. I also HATE a tie, maybe more than losing.