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Originally posted by Pop Up Hitter dad:
Our local MLB team (60 miles) had open tryouts. Suggested to Pop up he go. No way. Guess he either thinks he doesn't stack up or isn't interested in pro ball yet????
I am not sure, someone correct me if wrong, but I am not sure that open tryouts should be used for future pro plans but more for an idea of how your skills are compared to others (your age), take away what you need to work on to better those skills and perhaps gain exposure. As someone suggested it may be more like a showcase but free of any costs.
Showcases, IMO are important for players to be able to see how they compare to those that they will be competing against locally and nationally for college or for pro aspirations. It can be a great learning process for some, as far as their perception of themselves and what they need to work on.
When son was in HS he made it pretty clear, no tryouts, he did 2 showcases and 1 camp, that was it, but he never turned down an opportunity to play in tournaments. He even passed up an opportunity as an All Star (where every scout in the state attends) for his prom, where others may not have missed that for anything. He was gonna do it his way not our way. And he figured it out.
I feel sometimes that parents really want more than their players do, without realizing it. And it's hard to come to a place where parents often talk about how much they do for their kids and how that turns into success for them. But there are many situations where parents do everything and their dreams and goals don't coincide with what the player really wants, so we take that as our players not caring or afraid. IMO, it's ok he didn't want to go. It's also ok if you think that he isn't as ambitious as others. FWIW, we only hear one side here, I am pretty sure there are many that do what they do because mom or dad said that is the only way they are going to make it.
You sound disappointed, perhaps at this time, your son and you should sit down and have a talk, find out what he really wants to do, and how he plans on achieiving that goal. Perhaps baseball for him is just a means to attend school, perhaps he has bigger goals and wants to figure it out for himself. Perhaps he has no desire to play professional ball. That's ok too. The ultimate responsibilty how far you go in this game falls on the player, not us.
I hope that every parent acknowledges their sons personally for who they are, not what they do or how they do it. Often times when we become critical they sense that and they just stop talking to us. My son's BF in HS, dad, was so disappointed when his son didn't perform to his liking, the player developed some real issues later on. Somewhere between the multiple teams each year, the changing of private to public HS for baseball only, getting him into a D1 school way above what he could handle in the classroom, finally took it's toll. I think he did it more for his dad than for himself. I am not saying this is the case, but this is just an example of how badly some parents look at their players as failures when they don't perform or reach the goal the parent has set for them.
It's important to enjoy the present moment, where ever they are, whatever they are doing and always look for the positive, not the negative. I know that I have a hard time myself with that sometimes, but learning too as I go.