Mom advice needed

Obviously I am not a mom (and I do not believeI have ever posted in this forum), but I feel confident in telling you that you should never stop. Don't interfere with the coach or the team, but never stop in your support, your interest and your active (and positive) presence.

I have three sons and every one of them has appreciated the ongoing interest and presence of their mom every step along the way.

Not a mom either but....



I know my son wants to know mama is there and engaged at all times.

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When is it no longer "cool" to have your mom understand your sport & be involved?

When you're no longer playing.

And even then...its still pretty cool.

Never stop! Be at every game you can! I know my son wants us there, and I think every boy on his team really appreciates having his mom on the sidelines.

Cherish these upcoming years --- I am so very grateful to baseball for enriching our mother-son relationship.

He has even let me give him public hugs and kisses on rare occassions. (After his no hitter, after the team won the conference champ, etc.).

Just don't ever try to talk to the coach about anything, and don't try to cheer him up after bad games.

You just develop a "new understanding" of the game...from behind the scenes, so to speak. He'll appreciate your involvement forever!
I worked conssesion stand or press box music, sold ads for the program & signs for the outfield, worked the "cleanup days" & helped with "courtesy booth" during preseason tournaments, made flyers for school walls promoting game day, submitted stories to the local newpaper, ran carpool for kids without transportation or a way home (when parents didn't make any games), developed a couple fundraising programs. And took lots of pictures!!!
Then, when son was a Jr, I "got promoted" to my dream job...Editing, photographing, layout, etc..every detail of the Trojan Baseball Program. Did this for 2 yrs & loved every minute!
Also did video tribute for Senior banquet those last 2 years.

Whatever my son needed, I was there. If a teammate needed a surrogate mom, I was there. And, "public show of affection" was welcomed...as long as he initiated the hug.

So, there are lots of ways to stay involved...I listened alot. And never spoke to Coach about my kid. Just had fun & enjoyed HIM having fun!!

Thank you all so much for the input. It's nice to know that I can still be involved. I'm hoping to have as much fun as they do!

We never stop. Once you've got "baseball mom" in your blood, it doesn't leave easily. You support him any way he needs it. Driving to games, taking players, uniforms, snack bars, banquets, whatever is needed to make the years go smoothly on the sidelines.

And heck, I still even play catch and somewhat catch him when he needs to "throw a modified pen" (I think I am the modification). And he will be in college in a few weeks. What we don't do for our boys

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BBfam said....We never stop. Once you've got "baseball mom" in your blood, it doesn't leave easily. You support him any way he needs it. Driving to games, taking players, uniforms, snack bars, banquets, whatever is needed to make the years go smoothly on the sidelines.

I see this in my wife 100%. She knows so much about the game. In addition, most of the time she'll make cookies or brownies for my son's college or high school teams. She is quite the baker. It has made my son's the most popular kids in the dugout after the games.

It is unanimous. Don't stop. You are more important than you think. How many high level players talk about their moms? A LOT!

Canyons mom

I can so relate to your post! My 2013 RHP has started his college search, contacting coaches, visiting campuses, etc. like you I have always been the more involved parent. (I am a teacher and have summers off to do all the running around, etc.). I wasn't sure what to do during college visits, but found out that they are all different. Some coaches wanted to meet me, others didn't, so I would sit in the admissions waiting room and wait for him to finish. It's definitely been a learning process for both of us!

As far as high school is concerned, I learned to NEVER go near the bench. If I was needed for an injury, etc. someone would notify me. As our boys grow older, a lot more responsibility is transferred to them. But rest assured, whether they vocalize it or not, it is important to be there and they do appreciate it!