Son invited coach to his game today, coach actually showed up. Do I leave him alone, sit away from him, near him, what??? ACK!!!
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Me personally, I'd leave him alone. Maybe a quick "hey coach how you doing" from afar if the situation calls for it, but nothing more than that.
Be a cool little Fonzie, Dad, let it be about the kid. If the coach wants to make an offer, there'll be time for you to talk to him,ask questions etc
actually, i'm not at the game, which is probably a good thing. Mom asked me what she should do... stay away is good advice!
Cool! He is there to see your son, not you. Leave him alone. As 3and2 said, if things progress down the line, there will be time for you to ask questions at the appropriate time.
KilroyJ posted:actually, i'm not at the game, which is probably a good thing. Mom asked me what she should do... stay away is good advice!
Oh, well, that's different. How good looking is mom? Sorry, JK. Curious, what is it that she had in mind to say? 
Good luck and I hope your son has a particularly good game.
She just wanted to know what proper etiquette would be- all are in agreement to leave him alone!
First time a coach showed up at my son's game, he asked my son's coach where my son's parents were and came over to introduce himself. Saw him 2 or 3 more times after that....just said hello when I was walking past...nothing more. One game we were at a complex that had a concession stand quite a ways from the field....I was walking back to the game and he was coming toward me. He actually started the convo and said something to the effect of "your son looks good today"....so I stopped. We talked for a couple minutes.
since this was 2 hours ago....how did it turn out?
coach took up several different positions around the field as my son pitched, he stayed for about 4 innings and left. Son had a decent outing, 7 innings, 3 hits, 8Ks, 2BB. He threw two kids out on the bases as well. we lost 1-0 on an overthrow to 3rd that allowed the runner to score from second, we had runners at the corners with no outs in the bottom of the 7th and couldn't score. That's baseball! He will call him tonight to thank him and we'll go from there. Thanks for the advice and war stories, hopefully i'll be on the other side some day giving advice to neurotic parents myself!
I'm going to say that's a good sign. Lots of these guys know when they don't like a kid in less than an inning. If he stayed for 4, then he probably wanted to take a good long look.
I believe your son is a HS sophomore. FYI, as far as NCAA rules go, parent and student are the same entity. The coach (D1/D2) can't talk to any of you in that setting (away from his campus). Mom would have put him in kind of a bad spot if she started up a conversation.
MidAtlanticDad posted:I'm going to say that's a good sign. Lots of these guys know when they don't like a kid in less than an inning. If he stayed for 4, then he probably wanted to take a good long look.
I believe your son is a HS sophomore. FYI, as far as NCAA rules go, parent and student are the same entity. The coach (D1/D2) can't talk to any of you in that setting (away from his campus). Mom would have put him in kind of a bad spot if she started up a conversation.
Thank you!! I was wondering about this.
If a high school coach has a college prospect(s) on his team he needs to know the rules and tell the parents. Otherwise it can cause problems.
Here's an NCAA shootstorm that nearly got a team banned from post season play. All that really happened was an innocent move by some college prospects put potential recruits and a coaching staff in the same private residence before the legal off campus contact date.
A softball teammate of my daughter sister's D1 team was in town playing the local team in the conference. The parents hosted the team to a pasta party. The younger sister (a D1 prospect herself) invited her four D1 prospect teammates to come over and meet the team. That put them in a private residence with a coaching staff. The coaching staff ran out the back door and self turned in the program. Even so, there was a hearing.
As I said earlier, the first time we talked, the coach came up to us....basically just introduced himself and said hello. I was curious at the time if it was legal. I did some checking and found out that as long as we didn't talk baseball/school/etc it was ok. As I said, I never approached him....and he never talked baseball so even when I passed him on the way from the concession stand and he stopped to talk, I always thought we were ok. It was a field with a lot of other people and coaches around. We were in plain view of others. He had been a RC for quite a few years....so I guess I figured he knew the rules.
Son called coach last night, left a message and said he would call again at a specific time- coach answered second call on first ring! gave him a little advice on hiding the ball a little better in his glove to prevent first base coach from picking up the grip, said he liked what he saw and wants to come out again soon. So far he hasn't said anything to his coach about it, I think he should ASAP.
KilroyJ posted:Son called coach last night, left a message and said he would call again at a specific time- coach answered second call on first ring! gave him a little advice on hiding the ball a little better in his glove to prevent first base coach from picking up the grip, said he liked what he saw and wants to come out again soon. So far he hasn't said anything to his coach about it, I think he should ASAP.
Absolutely tell him. Not sure how far the college guy is traveling, but their schedules are hectic this time of year....it's impressive that he even made it out once....and a really good sign if he wants to come again. Let the HS coach know....as your son will want to keep the college coach updated on his schedule. The chances of him having an open day to come back are already pretty slim....give him as much notice and as many options as you can so he can work your son into his schedule.
This thread is an informative reminder that Parents NEVER speak to the recruiting coordinator or head coach.
The only exception is possibly a discussion regarding costs . Net gap tuition costs AFTER an offer.
The same applies AFTER they commit and have a roster spot at the college.
My son is playing at a D1 school in the south. The only time I speak to the coach is :
1) Health issues / injury updates
2) Fundraising for the program
I personally have a one additional exception. I live across the country. So, when I come to visit I'm sure to seek out the HC for a handshake as a courtesy to let him know I'm on campus .
Only AFTER an offer? We took an unofficial visit just 3 days after the RC first contacted my son for the first time. It would have been kind of strange for us to walk around campus with him for 3+ hours without asking any questions......especially when he kept referring to "when he gets here"....not "if". He offered 2 days later over the phone and my son accepted on the spot, but only because we had asked questions when we were there a couple days earlier.