justafan2 ...
You may have read some of our thoughts about transferring on another thread in the Recruiting forum, and here is part of my input when it comes to players choosing to transfer:
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Trust me when I say that I am hardly a soft touch but I think there are many many valid reasons for a student athlete to transfer. After all, we all understand that there are a myriad of solutions to problems, not the least of which may just be to walk away from it. That is merely what some of these players are doing ... and they have every right to do so.
I intentionally emphasized my particular thought that walking away from a problem is sometimes a valid option. And I believe that such a solution is something many of us have taught our sons and daughters to do when they feel it is necessary. IMO changing schools may sometimes be the best approach for a player who feels he is beng "targeted" by the coach. A lot of times, a person with that coach's kind of personality is unapproachable, (tho I would still recommend that your son try and discuss this with his coach first). Many coaches who end up receiving a transfering player might well know the caliber of coach the player felt he needed to get away from. (IMHO these collge coaches are a small club whose members seem to know a lot more about each other than we could ever imagine, so if the guy is the jerk he seems to be, other coaches will already know about him ... and may have even had other players consider transferring from his program to theirs.)
A couple of years ago, we saw a similar situation on the West Coast that involved a relatively high profile player who wanted to tranfer from his PAC-1 school to a particular Big West school (which was a big rival to his school)... it apparently was no surprise to others when the PAC-10 AD (probably as a result of input from the coach) would not authorize the player's release if he were going to transfer to this particular Big West team, and the player garnered a lot of sympathy because people seemed to understand the coach involved. And the player needed to "walk away" (tho I am sure he wanted to run, not walk) from this coach because he had not been approachable to discuss matters with the player. No one considered this as setting a bad precedent for the player ... it was something he had to do if he wanted to play ball in what he felt was a healthier environment. Negative situations like this can reek havoc on a player's education as well as their psychological state. So if he is having a lot of trouble, leaving should not be consdered a bad thing.
Eventually your son will have to make a decision, and altho I hope your son is able to get through this without too many "scratches", if he absolutely believes that he needs to leave, then he should be able to do it without second guessing himself or having others who aren't in his cleats, second guessing his decision.
Again, good luck to him.