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PARADE REPORTS: INTENSE PRESSURE CAUSES YOUNG SPORTS PLAYERS TO DROP OUT IN RECORD NUMBERS


New York, August 4 – “If I had to sum up the crisis in kids’ sports,” J. Duke Albanese, Maine’s former commissioner of education, tells PARADE for this Sunday’s issue, “I’d do it in one word – adults.”

“There is a terrible imbalance between the needs kids have and the needs of the adults running their sports programs,” says Dr. Bruce Svare, director of the National Institute for Sports Reform. “Above all, kids need to have fun. Instead, adults are providing unrealistic expectations and crushing pressure.” As a result, Svare says, 70% of America’s children are abandoning organized sports by age 13. Svare’s own call to action is to fundamentally rethink the way children play organized sports.

According to National Collegiate Athletic Association (NCAA) statistics, fewer than 2% of high school athletes will ever receive a college athletic scholarship. Only one in 13,000 high school athletes makes it to the pros. But these statistics don’t deter some parents of young athletes who are willing to do whatever it takes to help their children become professional athletes. Additionally, prepubescent athletes are experimenting with performance-enhancing drugs. And doctors are reporting sharp spikes in injuries caused by year-round specialization in a single sport at an early age.

Many communities are currently instituting changes in children’s sports. In Maine, educators, student athletes and others have teamed up to launch a counterrevolution called Sports Done Right to radically remake Maine’s youth sports culture and provide a model that the rest of America might emulate. Other states are following suit. School officials in Connecticut are concerned about the toll of too much focus on a single sport, so they have instituted a statewide ban on students playing on a private travel team during the same season they play their sport in high school. In Florida, after facing a rash of violent behavior by sports parents, the Jupiter-Tequesta Athletic Association requires parents to take an online course on how to behave at their children’s athletic events.

Fixing the crisis in kids’ sports begins at home. Some tips from Sports Done Right to get parents started:

• Encourage your child, regardless of his or her degree of success of level of skill.

• Ensure a balance in your student athlete’s life, encouraging participation in multiple sports and activities while placing academics first.

• Emphasize enjoyment, development of skills and team play as the cornerstones of your child’s early sports experiences while reserving serious competition for the varsity level.

• Leave coaching to coaches and avoid placing too much pressure on your youngster about playing time and performance.

• Be realistic about your child’s future in sports.

• Be there when your child looks to the sidelines for a positive role model.

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NO doubt some good info but can I add a list of unstated factors :

1. Adults fail to insure some physical fitness and exercise in their kids so they become Play-Station blobs and sports are " just too hard and hot for those wimps"

2. Adults fail to make the kids work at home and at other jobs that make sports seem like a relief rather than a chore

3. Adults allowing kids to quit everything that interfers with their requirement for "instant gratification"

4. Kids having too much money handed to them for doing absolutely nothing. If you had given Jeter enough money in HS he would have hung out at the mall too and never played
On the flip side, there are more kids than ever participating in sports at all levels, and more sports to participate in...


I have 2 kids...My daughter played T-ball & hated it. A couple years later, she tried softball & still hated it...Her calling is voice, piano & writing...She'll be a sophomore in college, interested in Music Therapy as a career.

My son on the other hand, who loves the game & has played all his life, is currently participating in Area Code Games. He's enjoyed much success, works harder than most, & has his sights set on going as far as his abilities will take him...Currently his out in Long Beach @ Area Code. Verballed to Tulane a couple weeks ago...


Common sense, to me...When parents allow there kids to be who they are, then great things happen for them. I don't see too many parents "pushing" their kids into something that "ain't them"...I guess it happens, but I'd venture to say most parents can read their kids pretty well & try to provide opportunities that the kid is suited for.
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Intense Pressure with any activity will do the trick. Sports is no different than anything else today. I have seen it both in the classroom and on the field. A parent wants their kid to do well. Nothing wrong with that. Wants an A in math. Not an A student. Wants the kid to be the starting second baseman or get a scholarship. Does not have the tools. That is the reality of the situation but they press everybody including the kid for something that is not there or if it was the way it is handled turns the kid off and he just throws up his hands and gives up. So it works both ways.
Being a parent is the toughest job. When you have a child they dont come with directions or warranties. It is sort of learning as you go. Everybody gives you advice but you are the one that has to act. I have said this before when I see a 5 year old kid wearing a shirt saying such and such league t ball all star or as I have seen on this site discussions about tryouts for a 6 year old traveling team the ingredients are in motion at an early age for pressure to succeed.
Quite frankly I think there is just to much psycho -analysis going on of every human behavior.

Don't think that kids don't pick up on the guilt trip that the psychologist and psychiatrist have layed on parents.

Most kids drop out of sports because it has lost its attraction to them for reasons that all teens know has to do with finding other things to do, like hanging out at the mall with their friends and getting away from adults in general.

It's a rare kid that has the internal motivation to love something enough to want to stick with it, and put up with the abuse that they encounter sometimes with a bullying player, and I witnessed that happen in our leagues, and adults who can be obnoxious and downright mean, and I've witnessed that in ouir leagues.

What makes it worth it for some kids is maybe one or a few adults who care enough to shepherd them through the snake pits and show them how they can be successful even though they may not be the best athlete or the best player.

What's killing youth sports in my estimation is the constant teaching that being competitive is bad and keeping score results in making individuals feel bad. If kids are continually hearing that it is bad to be a competitive person, one or two things will happen. First they will try to comform to what's acceptable, or second they will find a venue to compete in that is not being controlled by psuedo-psychoanalyzers...in other words they'll compete using their PS-2, X-Box's, or Ninendo's, where the pinheads can't interfere with their fun, because that's the way "real" human nature is not some psuedo-intellectual theorem that has nothing to do with reality..
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In some cases if the shoe fits. Look at what is going on with being "competitive" Parents fighting in the stands and other things. My last year of coaching I had to come between a parent and a coach. I once told a parent to stay away as his constant yelling to him from the stands was embaressing his kid. so they are out there. How many? I guess that is another topic.
Ramrod

Never said change the rules. who said anything about punishing the kids. for some they have been punished already. Nobody said dont be competitive. But when you are dealing with 9 10 11 year old kids you have to go about it in the right way. Once heard a coach after a game call his team a bunch of losers. Is that being competitive or an *******. Maybe when we get the test to weed out the *******s we can do better.
Will

I have serious problems with any adult who uses their position of authority to debase and insult adults, let alone kids who can't defend themselves.

But the truth be known so many of these programs are run by well intentioned people who barely qualify for the positions they hold.

I found that most programs usually ahs a nucleus of people who control everything and put out flyers to elicit volunteers, then do everything they can to discourage participation by volunteer parents.

I never did understand why the boards of the programs wouldn't put a security team in place at each game to monitor the behavior of parents in the grandstands. And finally the umpire needs to speak to the coaches of each team and remind them that they are responsible for the behavior of the parents in the grandstands.

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