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Here is the situation is this. Prior to the job I have now I taught and coached at 2 high schools that had next to no parental support. Now at the school I am at I have a ton of support and with that comes some problems. I ham in a town that has 3 high schools but as far as the baseball community goes it is a very small and tight knit community where everyone knows everyone. I have a lot of parents who come off as wanting to be not just a friend to the program but a friend to me. I moved into this area so for the most part I am an outsider and have not known many of these people for more than a few years. How do some of you coaches from smaller areas handle friendships with parents? How do you distinguish those that want to be friends and those that have alternative motives?
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Here's one suggestion I use. Always call parents by "Mr." or "Mrs." So-and-so. Using first names implies a friendship. "Mr." or "Mrs." sends a message that there is a separation there that needs to exist. If a parent says to just use their first name, explain that it's nothing personal, it's just how you respond to all parents regardless of how close they are to you. Call them by their first name after the kid graduates. You can't change their intentions but you can control how you interact with them.

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I would just politely and calmly let any parents know that you appreciate their support and their help and will certainly use that as much as possible but also remind them that you can't have a personal interaction with them as long as their kid is on the team or is trying to make the team.

Most people are reasonable and understand that even if you are completely fair with their kid, the act of being friends with the parents will create a conflict of interest that others may look upon negatively. It is hard, I am sure there are people there that you could become close friends with and just let them know that you could become friends with them.

Only after their son graduates.

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