Well, it's official, my son has committed to a D3 and will likely start next year at his chosen position. It's a very good school that he possibly would not have gotten into without baseball and I'm happy for him.
Last summer, my financial situation changed abruptly, and I read a lot of advice on this site about going back to small schools and making them aware of your situation and telling them that finances will be a factor in the decision. Honestly, at $60K a year, even with a great job and with scholarships/aid, that can be a big burden on a family. I emailed the school's financial aid office last month and told them honestly that my son was debating between 2 schools and it could come down to money. They said "thank you, we have our final financial allocation meeting this afternoon so this is good timing". They DOUBLED the offer, and this made our decision much easier. It is a life changing (won't have to sell my house, for example) offer.
The coaches are young and hungry (and treat the boys like student-athletes not vice versa), the facilities are good, the conference is competitive, the school is awesome, the $$ package is great, I'll be able to attend some games. What could go wrong? I visit the website this morning and the head coach stepped down this week "for personal reasons". Of course this happens all the time, but you hope that it won't happen right before your son leaves for college. The good news is that the recruiting coach was named head coach, and my son has a great relationship with him. But he is quite young and not very experienced, so it's concerning.
Also, my son was just named first team in his (large, competitive) conference and the D1 dreams are still alive. He is having second thoughts, but his only D1 interest was from schools academically not a fit or too far away. He wants to play and knows he will do so at his chosen school, but he also wants to compete at the highest level he can. I honestly didn't think we'd still be talking about this at the end of May. Do any good offers come from senior summer? JC is not on the table.
I thank the board for the advice that helped us get this far, and any additional words of wisdom would be appreciated. I'm not even sure what my question is, I just know we don't feel quite settled yet and I wish my boy was more firm in his choice. I love the school he committed to, but it's not my decision.