Teammate College Roommate?

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I made a comment and I will repeat same. Parents (and this is not just directed to you) worry too much about things that they can't control. I am only giving advice because I have spent hours worrying about things with my kids (I could not control) and it's not always productive. Your son will be leaving home and making his own decisions. If he has roommate issues he will learn to speak to the people (his coaches) who will take care of it for him. Or he will learn that not everyone is the same and how to deal with all types of individuals.

If you were willing to take a step back when he graduated to the big field, then you should do the same as he moves forward.

Once again as I responded, my son a pitcher, has always roomed with his closest friends, who were also pitchers. His first year in the dorm he was matched with 3 other pitchers. There was never any jealously between who spent more time on the mound and they also understood if they lost a start, it was their fault not the other guys. They supported each other as teammates and friends. This is what being part of a team is all about.

No, I don't think I deleted any posts (though I was reading earlier on my phone, so maybe by accident?).

I think you're making a little leap though on assuming that we parents are "worrying"" about this. Our son does have a mind of his own. And up until he came to orientation (where we are now), HE was the one who didn't want to room with a teammate. But he's really hit it off well with one. So he texted his coach, who called him back, and encouraged him to do so.

If he is taking care of business like he should why ask?

Older son was assigned a roommate by the college...non-athlete...school policy. Unmitigated disaster in nearly every way.

Younger son roomed freshman year with teammate from area. Not best friends at all, but seemed to work out quite well.

What does it all mean? Have no idea.

Some at older son's school ended up with GREAT roommates assigned by college. Having met both of my son's roommates, I'd say it was more of a function of the person than whether or not they were a teammate.

My son always roomed with a teammate.He spent three years with his last roomate.Probably one of his best friends in life.Where son went to school most of the players room with other players,while some choose not to.

I am sure there are pros and cons,but with our son he and his roomate were just on the same page.They didnt go out much,they took care of school business,they would go to early outs,they were both focused and it worked out great.We love their family and will most likely be lifelong friends.

Another shout-out for rooming with teammates. It is much easier to room with someone that has approximately the same schedule. 5:30 or 6 am weight conditioning day in and day out can be tough on your roomie if they don't hsve to get up too. Night owls rooming with athletes can be a real problem.

Echo Fans experience. Son roomed with a pitcher on his team all 4 years. Great friends and also with the other players family. Now lives (for his last year) with 3 other bb players. They all get along great and have similar schedules.

Friends' athlete daughter @ Stanford roomed with a non-athlete freshman year. It was a disaster because the athlete had to be @ 6am work-outs and the non-athlete roommate was just getting to bed by 2or 3 am!! My friends daughter ended up with sleep deprivation, had to get a Dr's note to change roomies. That's worst case scenario and I'm sure there are many success stories about not rooming with an athlete. Sometimes adversity and problem-solving with bad roomies is part of the college experience and helps kids learn to make the best of a bad situation.

Sounds like your son worked it out by himself.

I can see many advantages to rooming with a teammate. Not so much for rooming with a non-athlete. My son wouldn't have it any other way. His teammates have become his brothers. They are family, and like iron sharpens iron, they improve as baseball players by pushing one another, holding each other accountable, and competing on and off the field. When times are tough it is the camaraderie between teammates that gets them through it.

Freshman year doesn't matter as the coach usually pick the roomates. Son roomed with a pitcher, pitcher was drunk most of the time, didn't work too well.

It will vary by person, however my son's best roomate's were not planned in any manner. His senior year he answered an e-mail from the athletic department and ended up rooming with 3 football players in a home owned by one of the players parents. The upside was the football players were super serious about what they were doing year round and the parents checked on their investment every so often...and no parties were allowed at the house. The plus, he got to sit the parent section at games and knows alot more about Hokie football coaches and players then most.


My point, if you son is serious, he should find a serious roomate and it doesn't have to be a baseball player and it helps if the owner checks on his/her property. (i.e. stay out of apartments)

My daughter roomed with a teammate who was also playing the same position. So, they were friends but also trying to earn one open spot. At times, I think it was a little touchy. Then, when another player quit, my child moved positions and everything was good to go. They are good friends but will not room together this year. Roommate became better friends with another teammate who is a Cub's fan as this young lady is and so they are rooming together for this coming year. My daughter is a Cardinals fan. Need I say more? My daughter will room this year with an incoming junior college transfer that plays on the same summer travel team. They know each other well, have been friends for some time and we know the parents. We are already communicating on who has what to bring to their apartment. I believe this is really going to work out well. So my child has been blessed for two years to have good roommates who were teammates.

Your son sounds like he is doing a great job handling the situation. Each situation is different and if he hit it off with one of his teammates, it should be a good situation. Picking someone random, is exactly that, random. There will be plenty of situations to meet others as "hallmates."

My son, a P decided to room with a catcher that he had played summer ball against for years. They will be rooming together next year as Juniors for the 3rd year. They are both still friends with many of their original hallmates.

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Originally posted by CoachB25:
My daughter roomed with a teammate who was also playing the same position. So, they were friends but also trying to earn one open spot. At times, I think it was a little touchy. Then, when another player quit, my child moved positions and everything was good to go. They are good friends but will not room together this year. Roommate became better friends with another teammate who is a Cub's fan as this young lady is and so they are rooming together for this coming year. My daughter is a Cardinals fan. Need I say more? My daughter will room this year with an incoming junior college transfer that plays on the same summer travel team. They know each other well, have been friends for some time and we know the parents. We are already communicating on who has what to bring to their apartment. I believe this is really going to work out well. So my child has been blessed for two years to have good roommates who were teammates.

My Cardinals fan son was also assigned a Cubs fan roommate last year. Had to explain everything to him, starting with the concepts of playoffs and World Series.

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The only valid reason to become a Cubs fan is to reduce schedule conflicts between baseball and deer hunting.

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Originally posted by CoachB25:
My daughter roomed with a teammate who was also playing the same position. So, they were friends but also trying to earn one open spot. At times, I think it was a little touchy.

I think that was his concern when he mentioned the opportunity to us Saturday. This teammate is a pitcher/SS/3B, and my son is SS/2B. In all honesty, we think our son will end up moving to 2B in college anyway, so maybe not an issue.

Our daughter (not a college athlete) went random her first year on roommates and it didn't work out so well. Last year, she found someone else and it was great. So it does seem that picking your own at least has a better chance of working out than random.

I'm pretty sure he's going to room with this player. Let's hope they don't compete for same position. Though he (and we) are aware of and welcome healthy competition, it might be nice to not have to "bring work home with you" like that, so to speak.

Thanks for all the responses.

Something else to consider is whether they are going to have early morning workouts. My daughter's team practices start at 6 a.m. So if you have a roommate not on the team, they might get annoyed with the early morning activity. Your son might get annoyed with the late night noise. I know my daughter and her roommate seemed to get homework done and then got to bed because those morning workouts are a killer.

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Originally posted by Swampboy:
My Cardinals fan son was also assigned a Cubs fan roommate last year. Had to explain everything to him, starting with the concepts of playoffs and World Series.

That is hysterical, thanks for the laugh.

My first year in college (many moons ago) I roomed with a friend I went to HS with, it was horrible, I ended up living with the girl in the next room, and we have been BF ever since. I don't remember my mom or dad stressing over it or even cared.

Again my suggestion is that your son is now going away from home and he will have to work out these things on his own, just like most have to. They need to grow up and we need to also. I am saying this in a nice way. Take it as you want.

FWIW, I think that guys get along much better with guys than girls do with girls.

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I had a friend who was a dorm roommate and he decided to take leave for a quarter and I ended up with a roommate I had never met before. When we first met he was on the phone in our room when I walked in. He finished his conversation and then announced that he'd been talking with his Parole Officer. Nice.

I should have replied "That's cool. This is my first week out of the asylum." Believable...right?

It turns out he had been busted for pot...he wasn't a bad dude and there was no need for me to be to be frightened. After the quarter ended I never saw him again.



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You really don't know till you get there and till you've lived with someone as to whether it will work out.

Most good schools conduct an affinity match, it is not usually truly random, but again, you never know.

My daughter found her 1st year roommate at orientation. The year was fine but they both found new roommates the next year.

Last century, my first roommate was intent on making yogurt out of milk going bad in our fridge. I moved into a new room the next semester.

One of the old timers here has a by-line that says If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plan. I think when it comes to roomates, don't sweat it. You won't know what is right until about a week or two in and by then its is a pain to change. I think its all part of the education of going away to college.

Personnally, I think its better to room with a non-teammate in year one, but thats just me. It really is up to the collegians anyway.

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Well you know Red...what I ended up with 'technically' was yogurt.



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