I'm mostly a lurker and LOVE all the helpful info from the experienced members here....I would like some advice on how to handle it when teammates are jealous of the attention a prospect player is getting?
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You just ignore it
1. Smack 'em in the head.
2. Then smack their parents, that's where it probably started.
3. Laugh internally at the pettiness.
Feel free to skip #1 and #2.
2. Then smack their parents, that's where it probably started.
3. Laugh internally at the pettiness.
Feel free to skip #1 and #2.
Yup, ignore it. Pretty much.
Talk with your son about the effect his attention has on his teammates, making sure he isn't initiating any conversations about the attention. (That can be difficult for some guys, but there's no point in saying anything as it's going to be interpreted as bragging.)
If it's in his nature, have him come up wth a few self-deprecating lines: "Man, I thought they were here to see you!" "He's only here for the hot dogs" "That's just my stalker".
This is also the time for you to cheer for the other players, support the team, not call any attention to the attention, and answer any comments with something simple, like "we're very pleased that he's getting some looks".
This is one of the Good Times, don't let someone else's jealousy spoil it for your son!
Talk with your son about the effect his attention has on his teammates, making sure he isn't initiating any conversations about the attention. (That can be difficult for some guys, but there's no point in saying anything as it's going to be interpreted as bragging.)
If it's in his nature, have him come up wth a few self-deprecating lines: "Man, I thought they were here to see you!" "He's only here for the hot dogs" "That's just my stalker".
This is also the time for you to cheer for the other players, support the team, not call any attention to the attention, and answer any comments with something simple, like "we're very pleased that he's getting some looks".
This is one of the Good Times, don't let someone else's jealousy spoil it for your son!
Have to go with TR on this one.
Darn shame people can't be happy for a team mate's success!
Darn shame people can't be happy for a team mate's success!
Agree with both.
Teammate probably overheard his parents complaining and now is jealous. Sit away from the parents and tell your son to bust his butt in practice and ignore the jealous teammate.
Teammate probably overheard his parents complaining and now is jealous. Sit away from the parents and tell your son to bust his butt in practice and ignore the jealous teammate.
Coach should remind team that the exposure is good for all the players
njbb
I agree with you---one stud on the team keeps the scouts coming and when the scouts are there they see all 18 players on the field--it is good for all
I agree with you---one stud on the team keeps the scouts coming and when the scouts are there they see all 18 players on the field--it is good for all
There is really nothing you can do, it just happens.....it really is good advice for the coaches to tell the team that the exposure of a teammate is good for everyone especially true for underclassmen........
In my HS a large group of senior football players went to college on scholarships because our HS quarterback was so highly recruited.....coaches came to see him play and saw other kids they liked....
I know it was tough on my son when teammates he had had since he was a kid were cool towards him when he was being recruited.....they were seeing the end of their playing road and he was lucky enough to extend his so far to one level further....
In my HS a large group of senior football players went to college on scholarships because our HS quarterback was so highly recruited.....coaches came to see him play and saw other kids they liked....
I know it was tough on my son when teammates he had had since he was a kid were cool towards him when he was being recruited.....they were seeing the end of their playing road and he was lucky enough to extend his so far to one level further....
quote:how to handle it when teammates are jealous of the attention a prospect player is getting?
This is common not only in baseball but in life in general. I tried to explain that jealousy is nothing more than a display of emotion by those envious of his position. Take it as compliment because it signifies others have recognized his ability and his success. Most say ignore it but that is easier said than done. Helping your son to understand it will minimize its effects on him.
Fungo
If you are a pitcher and problem "teammate" is a catcher, well you have a great equalizer!
Just be sure your son (or whoever is getting the attention) knows the jealously is just that.
In no way, shape or form should they slow down what they are doing to "fit it"
I have seen this happen, especially when the jealous kid is one of the more popular kids in school.
I guess it is an early life lesson on jealously and as pointed out Fungo's post, it will happne throughout life when you are successful.
In no way, shape or form should they slow down what they are doing to "fit it"
I have seen this happen, especially when the jealous kid is one of the more popular kids in school.
I guess it is an early life lesson on jealously and as pointed out Fungo's post, it will happne throughout life when you are successful.
Orlando ..
"That's just my stalker".
Great retort !!!
"That's just my stalker".
Great retort !!!
One thing to make sure is that your son is not cocky about it. He most likely isnt but in the case that he is tell him just to keep his mouth shut and play for the team. On the other hand if he is not bragging about being scouted(Most Likely thing) then tell him that if his fellow teamates are nagging him about it the only reason is because they would give anything to be in his shoes.