Anyone ever had this happen where a teammate that you was looking forward to not having to deal with after high school is trying to get recruited at the school your already committed to?
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Huh 
We had a teammate of our son go to the same school, but in our case we were very happy about it.
I have heard of others in this situation. But if you're already committed, typically the coaches will mention their interest in the other player and, if they don't ask you point blank for your take on him, they'll at least await your reaction.
You have to tread very, very lightly here. You don't want to get the a reputation for trashing people behind their backs before you even step on campus. And Lord, if your teammate finds out, your remaining time in HS will be hell on earth.
Also bear in mind that you're going to have college teammates who aren't your favorite guys, no matter what you do. If there are 34 other guys on the team you can bet some of them you won't like so much. In the end, you don't hang out with them, and that's that. It's a lot different from HS, where the rosters are only half the size of college teams. So it's not the end of the world if your guy ends up with you.
On balance, then, I don't think that you should open your mouth if you just plain don't cotten to the other guy. If you know of serious, concrete and proven issues, I think your coaches might well appreciate being given a heads up. E.g., serious and proven problems like drug use, alcohol use, stealing, etc. If you choose to say anything, just be as deferential as you can be, take care not to come across as too eager to trash the other guy, keep it along the lines of, "I am not sure if this is my place to say, but I just feel like you should be aware that ...."
It's playing with fire, and in most cases totally unnecessary, so I would definitely be sure I had concrete proof and I was dealing with a genuine and very big problem before I even thought about bringing it up. Beyond that, the fact that you might not seem too excited about the other guy might tip off your future coaches that not all is right with bachelor # 2.
I have heard of others in this situation. But if you're already committed, typically the coaches will mention their interest in the other player and, if they don't ask you point blank for your take on him, they'll at least await your reaction.
You have to tread very, very lightly here. You don't want to get the a reputation for trashing people behind their backs before you even step on campus. And Lord, if your teammate finds out, your remaining time in HS will be hell on earth.
Also bear in mind that you're going to have college teammates who aren't your favorite guys, no matter what you do. If there are 34 other guys on the team you can bet some of them you won't like so much. In the end, you don't hang out with them, and that's that. It's a lot different from HS, where the rosters are only half the size of college teams. So it's not the end of the world if your guy ends up with you.
On balance, then, I don't think that you should open your mouth if you just plain don't cotten to the other guy. If you know of serious, concrete and proven issues, I think your coaches might well appreciate being given a heads up. E.g., serious and proven problems like drug use, alcohol use, stealing, etc. If you choose to say anything, just be as deferential as you can be, take care not to come across as too eager to trash the other guy, keep it along the lines of, "I am not sure if this is my place to say, but I just feel like you should be aware that ...."
It's playing with fire, and in most cases totally unnecessary, so I would definitely be sure I had concrete proof and I was dealing with a genuine and very big problem before I even thought about bringing it up. Beyond that, the fact that you might not seem too excited about the other guy might tip off your future coaches that not all is right with bachelor # 2.
Funny, 4thGen had a number of schools that were recruiting one of three other kids from his HS and in only one case did the coaching staff even mention it. On the other hand he had three or four schools offer official visits to a couple of his club ball teammates at the same time as him.
It never was a problem because he like the other kids and he was never close to going to a school with one of his teammates.
It never was a problem because he like the other kids and he was never close to going to a school with one of his teammates.
quote:that you was looking
Say what?
Unless you know of a documented disqualifying issue, don't say, do, or imply anything that would hurt his chances.
Who knows? People grow up. He may become a better college teammate than you ever imagined.
Give him the chance you'd want if the roles were reversed.
Who knows? People grow up. He may become a better college teammate than you ever imagined.
Give him the chance you'd want if the roles were reversed.
I wouldn't worry about it.
Any action by you at this point in time will become a lose-lose situation. Just smile and wish him good luck.
Should he end up going to the same school just decline to room etc.. with the kid. You're son will be dealing with all sorts at his college, some better some worse.
Any action by you at this point in time will become a lose-lose situation. Just smile and wish him good luck.
Should he end up going to the same school just decline to room etc.. with the kid. You're son will be dealing with all sorts at his college, some better some worse.
This is one of those times where it's time to grow up and act like a man and that HS is in the past. This goes for all parties involved.
College teams are a tight knit group but there is a difference here too. In HS you've probably grown up with this guy and you've been around him for years. This means you couldn't get away from him but college is different. You're out there on your own and while you will be close to your team mates you are going to branch out and make friends with other people. Same with him, especially if you and he aren't very close right now. You will learn to work with him to help the team (and others you will find that you don't like on the team) and still be able to separate from him away from the field.
Something missing here from original poster (OP)?
There is no mention whether the disliked current teammate is a good enough ballplayer to play at same level (or is it possible he is better?) and or would he be trying out for same position.
Suppose it matters not and the advice provided to just "let it play out" is solid.
There is no mention whether the disliked current teammate is a good enough ballplayer to play at same level (or is it possible he is better?) and or would he be trying out for same position.
Suppose it matters not and the advice provided to just "let it play out" is solid.
It's out of your control. Forget about it. If you end up at the same school keep your mouth shut about him. People change. A teammate I couldn't stand as a freshman was my roommate as a junior and senior.quote:Originally posted by 2011baseball:
Anyone ever had this happen where a teammate that you was looking forward to not having to deal with after high school is trying to get recruited at the school your already committed to?