Originally Posted by CoachB25:
I don't understand how coaches can not have a system of communication established at the HS/College level to communicate with parents. I agree that college coaches almost always are unapproachable but that doesn't mean that they don't need a way to communicate with parents. My child's coach sends out a handout outlining everything. I think he is more organized than most. My child was recently hurt. He came over after the game with the trainer to talk to my wife and I. For HS Coaches, you have to communicate with parents. As I've outlined several times, I wanted the AD involved and the player of the parents to be in the meeting. However, I didn't have a problem after that with having the meeting.
I imagine that if CoachB and I could talk about this one, we'd find that we're more together than apart. In any case, my opinion about this is that college coaches need to plan on talking with parents when exceptional situations arise (i.e. serious injuries and infractions); but, that it's perfectly justified for them to expect to have the overwhelming majority of communications take place directly with their players. ...and that it's further justified for them to expect their players to communicate with their parents.
An example from my own situation: Every Freshman player at my son's former college program receives a multi-page letter addressed to him from the Head Coach just before the beginning of the Fall semester. That letter touches on quite a few things; not the least of which is the code of conduct that the coach expects on and off the field as long as the player plays there. In the conduct section he is extremely specific about what he expects in terms of both desired and undesired behaviors.
All my son had to do after he read it was hand it to my wife and me; which he did. As soon as we'd read it, we all had a very clear understanding of what the coach expected.
In my opinion, his Head Coach handled that communication exactly the way he should have; and, as part of that, was entirely justified in expecting that my son would pass the letter on to my wife and me. If my son hadn't done that, the error would have been on him; not the coach.
My son and his coach had quite a few substantive conversations over the course of his playing time there. My wife and I were never involved in any of them; but, we were aware of the ongoing substance of those communications through my son's conversations with us. In my opinion, that's just as it should have been.