I had an offline DM discussion with Collegebaseballrecruiting to "clear the air", and I thought I'd share part of this for the benefit of future readers who are considering attending a service academy:
I did not serve, but my son is a Plebe at the Naval Academy. I know very little of what it's like to serve but I've met lots of the academy students and families and without fail they are impressive young people - courteous, polite, hard working, achievement oriented, etc. I'm sure they can be full of themselves and arrogant, but no more so than kids I meet at Princeton where my older son attends. But I have yet to meet anyone who has even the hint of an ulterior motive for attending (such as "free education"). Without fail they want to serve and are willing to put up with a student lifestyle that 99% of young people would want no part of. My son had other options (Ivy league and others) but was drawn to the academy and "wanted to be part of something bigger than himself" (his words). He is a good ball player and wanted a shot at being drafted. Scouts told him he's a low rounder at best. Considering this, he was willing to forgo the possibility of getting drafted in the future for the opportunity to attend USNA and serve the country - decision made eyes wide open after a year of consideration.
My son had two mentors in HS who were academy graduates - one was USNA the other West Point. One is a great guy who anyone would want to have a beer with, the other not so much. There's all types and I can imagine the officer/enlisted dynamic is tough enough, and the academy angle probably makes it even more strained... so I can imagine where you are coming from.
So far he is loving it. It is tough, and some dropped in the first couple of weeks. He lives a very restricted, regimented life. But the growth he's experienced into a man and the sense of accomplishment he feels are both enormous. He was an amazing kid and now he's becoming an amazing man. I love the way the academy embraces and includes the entire family into his experience (while my relationship with my older son's university is limited to tuition bill emails and fund-raising solicitations).
He is loving the baseball aspect of it. The coaching he's receiving is phenomenal. Very thorough and hands on. They know they can't take JC kids to fill holes and need the younger guys to stick around and get better, so they invest a lot into developing players.
(Edited to clarify a point)