Is it me, or does it seem like the stress level seems go down as the kids get older? Maybe it gets worse and I'm just out of touch.
Possibly the parents seem to realize that their kids will end up on a team, and they won't get left out in the cold. I've also tried to look at it as the parents are only trying to do what is best for their kid. (Though some parents are NEVER satisfied).
One of the leagues we were previously involved in had a very strict recruiting rule. No team could contact a player on a team in that league, period. (Now I'm sure there was a little bit of that still going on, but it seemed like a good rule.) Our team does not recruit from other teams. We will only advertise an opening and talk to people after they show an interest.
CADAD, your right 12 to 13 is a pretty big jump. Best of luck to you.