canceled snacks and drinks the first year of coach pitch. mommies were fit to be tied.
Mothers are accustomed to edging their way into the political circle in school and sports. You took that way. I did the same thing. I didn't want mothers in the dugout thinking they're part of the process. I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.quote:Originally posted by cball:
canceled snacks and drinks the first year of coach pitch. mommies were fit to be tied.
quote:Originally posted by RJM:Mothers are accustomed to edging their way into the political circle in school and sports. You took that way. I did the same thing. I didn't want mothers in the dugout thinking they're part of the process. I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.quote:Originally posted by cball:
canceled snacks and drinks the first year of coach pitch. mommies were fit to be tied.
ummm RJM I hope you don't mind if I stand over here a little ways where it's safe. Don't want to catch a stray bullet.
I told the mothers they could do whatever they wanted as long as they don't come through the gate. If they wanted to provide snacks away from the dugout and field after I was done with the kids I didn't care. I had a rule that applied to either parent ... You do not pass through the gate. In basketball stay away from the team until I'm done talking.quote:Originally posted by cball:quote:Originally posted by RJM:Mothers are accustomed to edging their way into the political circle in school and sports. You took that way. I did the same thing. I didn't want mothers in the dugout thinking they're part of the process. I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.quote:Originally posted by cball:
canceled snacks and drinks the first year of coach pitch. mommies were fit to be tied.
ummm RJM I hope you don't mind if I stand over here a little ways where it's safe. Don't want to catch a stray bullet.
I knew he could do it because I had seen my 5 year old catch, but with great inconsistency. He would catch a hard thrown ball, miss a softer thrown ball, etc. I was convinced he just wasn't paying attention or wasn't focused...only to find out he couldn't see and needed glasses. Felt terrible.
When our son was about 10 his dad was still one of his coaches. Son was pitching that day and was having a really bad outing. His dad went to talk to him on the mound. From outside the fence I could tell he was being disrespectful to his dad as could most all the spectators. When inning ended and son came into the dugout I was standing at the fence to "greet" him. It was NOT a pleasant sight and one I regret to this day. In hindsight I realize his attitude had more to do with his pitching performance on that particular day and less to do with anything else. He and his dad have a great relationship and most days he also has a great relationship with mom. LOL.
quote:I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.
Dads never do this. Yeah, right!
As a mom, I have to say I was THRILLED when the whole snacks and drinks thing ended!
I should have taught my son more about the proper use of TACT.
This last summer he and I were having a conversation about my brief baseball career and he asked me "have you always been this slow or just since your ACL surgery?"
This last summer he and I were having a conversation about my brief baseball career and he asked me "have you always been this slow or just since your ACL surgery?"
Worst thing I did for my kid was pass on my genes.
D.B. Cooper,
My only question for you..
..where is the $200,000?
My only question for you..
..where is the $200,000?
Folks...reading all the posts here about the moments you'd like to have back impressed on me one thing. You made them because you were involved deeply in your children's life, trying to do the right thing with the best of intentions. It gave you repeated opportunity to model the values of humility and apology to your kid. Alot of you teach or have coached. You know there are kids whose parents, neither one of them, ever showed to a practice or a game. Nobody played catch with the kid in the driveway or backyard. Nobody went out and spent a fortune on instruction, showcases or travel. Nobody for that matter gave a rats rear end what their passion was. All the mistakes I made along the way, I wouldn't change because the bond I have with my son purely from the standpoint of baseball, let alone the other aspects of life, is solid rock. My dad did it that way, and I followed in the same path and I'm comforted to know that my son, though he will make blunders, will be man enough to say he's sorry and thus the circle of love will continue in a world where love is more valuable than gold.
Very well said Dino.
I've heard the saying "hate is closer to love than indifference" and while its certainly way too harsh for what we're talking about, it does show the importance of getting involved, making the normal mistakes and staying involved with your kids.
I've heard the saying "hate is closer to love than indifference" and while its certainly way too harsh for what we're talking about, it does show the importance of getting involved, making the normal mistakes and staying involved with your kids.
PA Dino, THANK YOU. You put into words what I hope my children feel about Dad and Mom's inept attempts at raising them to young adulthood.
Dads tried to horn in on helping at practices. I never allowed it.quote:Originally posted by 2Bmom:quote:I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.
Dads never do this. Yeah, right!
quote:Originally posted by RJM:Dads tried to horn in on helping at practices. I never allowed it.quote:Originally posted by 2Bmom:quote:I watched some of these same mothers attempt to place themselves in the process in middle and high school sports. They only did it for one reason. For the benefit of their kids. Then they flipped out when the kid didn't get preferential treatment.
Dads never do this. Yeah, right!
I coached travel teams in basketball and baseball. I preferred to limit the parental participation to a few assistant coaches/parents. Parents were more than welcome to hang out and watch. They'd usually leave me alone once they realized that I knew what I was doing.
I also coached the two sports in Rec-Ball, and in those occasions I encouraged all the parental participation. Why? I wanted the parents to recognize the disparity in talent. I wanted them to see that everyone of their kids were given the same opportunities to earn a position. Everyone of my players were given a chance to pitch at least one inning early in the season. The kids enjoyed it and the parents appreciated it even more. I was pretty fair, and I honestly can't remember running into any playing time or position/batting-order issues.