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I coach a 17-18 year old team and we were at a showcase tournament this weekend and played against some very talented teams. We couldn't have asked for better competition. I left the tournament with a sour taste in my mouth though, because we were unfortunate enough to play against some of the most arrogant, trash talking, unsportman-like teams that we have ever played against. Perhaps it's the age or something, but it was ridiculous!

Players were taunting other players, mocking and trash talking to other team's coaches, throwing bats, cursing at players while shaking hands after the game, etc. In fact the team that won our pool was so bad, the tournament director decided not to allow them to move on to the semi-finals because of their on-field actions. (They let a team that had the same record, but lost on a tie breaker advance instead.) What's worse was that the coach acted as though he had no idea what his players were doing.

It was extremely rewarding to our team that we were not only able to beat this particular team, but also the following morning before our next game, the director came and spoke to our team and explained his decision to not let them advance, and to congratulate our team for not being sucked down to that team's level. He also reiterated to the guys that not only do you never know who is watching you--but listening as well!
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Players do what the coach lets them, or tells them to do. When do these 17 and 18 year olds become responsible for their actions? My opinion is long before that game. At 17 or 18 years old, on the road, their parents may or may not even be there, let alone be responsible for what happens on the field, in the classroom or anywhere else.

The coaches and umpires run the show. If they let the kids run it, that's their fault, and frankly it's their problem. It just gets a little tiresome when coaches take credit when things go well and point fingers when it all goes sideways.
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Am Example:


A few years back we are playing down south and one of the players did some things not acceptable---he said I want to go home---this was team of HS players heading into their senior year--- nothing grave but enough to aggravate me when I get the call at 2 AM in my room--- We had a nice sitdown chat---you stay with us and you do not play unless your parents come down to get you---the next morning the kid tells me he isnt going to the game he is staying at the hotel to swim---IN A PIGS EYE SON !!!---get in your uniform and get on the bus ---he says why ---you told me I am not playing---VERY SIMPLE-- you will be in uniform and sit in the stands and keep score

When we get home his Dad argues with me about what I did--- AGAIN VERY SIMPLE---he is off the team SEE YA !!!!

There needs to be a time to be stern
At ages 17-18, you are old enough to make your own choices about what kind of person you want to be. You know right from wrong and are in the position to choose your own direction. Parents and coaches can no longer be blamed for attitudes and actions. The coach that doesn't allow poor behavior helps himself by eliminating players that aren't mature enough to realize the necessity of good decisions.
Woody4220,
What has happened to sportsmanship?
Sounds to me like your team exemplified it!

Its always out there,....sometimes ya just have to look a little harder to find it.
Being a loud distruptive bad sport can grab peoples attention,...while many times the good sportsmanship efforts are quiet, subtle, and not always noticed right away.

Just because bad sportsmanship is louder ( & ruder, and more obnoxious ) it surely doesnt lead to anything productive.

Your recent experience ( & win ) and the refusal to lower yourselves to the bad behavior level, just proved that!

The director noticed,....as well as many others I am sure....and the next time you guys look yourselves in the mirror,....it will be a quiet moment,.....no crowd around, but its gonna feel good!
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