I can’t be the only parent out there in this situation. My son is less than 2 weeks from heading off to college out of state and more than 1500 miles away and I am starting to realize the major change that is fast approaching. He is my first child heading off to college and the idea of not having him around and physically being there on a daily basis is going to be struggle. It’s the little things like annoying him by trying to talk to him about nothing while he plays x-box. Watching a game on TV together or going to D-backs or spring training game. Sitting at the dinner table and talking about his day at school and practice.
It is amazing how much time our family devoted to his senior year. Recruiting trips, baseball games, student council and honor society functions, along with the graduation activities and awards ceremonies. Finally, the preparation for getting him off to college. In less than two weeks there will be a void in our daily household activities.
My parenting philosophy is to give my kids space to experience as much as they can, allow them to fail and provide them guidance when needed, so they learn from their mistakes. I’ve been lucky with my son. He was great kid and is turning into a great man. It been pure joy watching him grow up. I don’t worry about the decisions he makes and 100% believe he will make the right choice for HIM. Some people saw I’ve been more of “buddy” than a dad. But in our family it works.
I’ve managed to avoid smothering him before he goes off to college. Pretty much letting him come and go as he pleases and refrain from asking him when he was going to be home, except for when I had specific reason for knowing. I hadn’t dictated what he needed to do in his free time. Although, now part of me wished I had asked him to spend more quality time with his siblings and other family members, especially me. Instead he spends what little free time he had after work and physical therapy with his friends and girlfriend. When I was 18, I did the same thing, so I am not surprised, just selfishly hurt a bit.
I am excited for the next journey in his life, but a right now a big part of me wants that 4 year old little guy who would spent hours in the back yard hitting baseballs into a net.
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