When is it ok for the parent to ask questions

NYCDad,

So, the way I approached this is my son is the mouthpiece to the coaches unless it is a medical or financial situation or question.  My son picks the college, now it is his full responsibility to ask questions and include his parents in those two areas.   This approach/advice was given to me by former HSBBWeb posters and it worked out extremely well for us.

Good luck! 

Thanks, yep, that's how it's been handled all along. I guess now there are some details that need clarification (related to finances of course) and rather than the constant back and forth and possible misunderstanding, wanted to know if appropriate to be involved at this point.

With my son’s offers, the coach usually asked for a call with all of us to go over the offer and answer questions.

baseballhs posted:

With my son’s offers, the coached usually asked for a call with all of us to go over the offer and answer questions.

thanks. this seems to make the most sense to me.

Let your son do the talking and have him ask if you can jump in on speaker to ask a few questions. Discuss finances, what the offer includes (meals, housing, books, tuition, etc) and any other questions your son might not know to ask. 

We were only considering local schools (2-3 hour radius) so each offer was in person, as coaches invited son and I.  I had my share of questions during those meetings, but absolutely zero before or after.

Finances? I wouldn't trust my son at that age to purchase a used car; at that age he thought money sprouted from the ground. At a private school, a 50% scholly still leaves over $140,000 to harvest from the garden; so, only adults can truly have the context to navigate the finances (and each family differs).

Basically all baseball stuff we left to him - facilities, gear, whatever. He decided his variables and the weight each got; he owned the decision. 

Academics we spoke; majors for the other players, careers/jobs recent players who didnt go pro work, etc.

Before the process heated up, m, d, and s determined alot so that we could be on the same page.  For us, that primarily meant the pond he fished in was decided early.

Almost every school that we visited included me in the conversation. I listened a lot as son led the conversation, but I jumped in when I had questions, mostly about stacking aid with the baseball offers and I talked to NCAA compliance officers at a couple of schools to make sure we knew what he would qualify for.

Honestly it was no different than when my daughter was looking at schools and we met with admissions staff or faculty — they were just academic sources rather than athletic.

The school that he eventually committed was the best baseball fit, but the worst financial offer. We met with the coaches, who reviewed the offer with us. Later, I got an email with a list of contact people we might want to talk to, including all the coaching staff, academic advisor, etc. I had a couple of calls with the academic advisor and recruiting coordinator both before and after son committed. 

The recruiting coordinator was very clear that he was there to answer questions, whether they came from me or my son. All of the coaches seemed open to hearing from us, and while we didn't take advantage of anyone but the RC and the academic advisory, knowing they were willing to talk if we needed to added a lot of comfort as son transitioned from recruit to member of the team.

Thank you all, this was a big help. I know there were threads about this prior, but I had problems getting it all together. Much appreciated.

Our school was and still is willing to answer any question I have had.  Some they pass me on to the specialists in that area but they have been very cordial to answer questions.  When they made the offer, he asked my son to put it on speaker phone so that I could hear what he was going to say.  I thought that was cool that he understood I needed to hear it. I usually try to ask questions by email since I understand their schedule.  They have been great about getting back.  But understand these questions have been few.  We have had a unique journey since we are out of state but getting instate tuition through the Southeast Regional Board which is great.