Here is the sitch..
15U tourney game playing a 14U team (playing up). Run rules as follows: 15 after 3, 12 after 4, and 8 after 5. We are in the top of the 4th up 11-0. Runner on 3rd and 1st. On the 3rd pitch pitcher hangs his leg as he delivers the pitch. Runner on 1st steals 2nd on instinct. The defensive team has a play on to thrown down hard and have SS cut off the throw to go home if the runner attempts to steal. Runner on 3rd does not attempt to go home until the throw hits and bounces off the SS's mitt into the outfield. Runner on 3rd takes home pretty easily putting us over the run rule. We just need to hold them through the bottom half of the inning to end the game. After the steal we hear some commotion coming out of the other teams dugout. Look up and their coach is walking out of the dugout having a very animated discussion with our coach. No yelling but its clear he is upset. Ump walks over and asks each coach to remove themselves from the game. No EJ's more of an administrative removal. Our coach walks away and goes and sits outside the fence down the line on our side of the field. Their coach has a few more word with the ump and leaves. We give up a run in the bottom of the 4th so have to play out the 5th.
After the game the ump stopped by our dugout on the way out. Had a very pleasant discussion with him. He actually commented to our coach that he asked everyone to remove themselves instead of having to EJ someone so they can coach in the next game (rules require a coach sit a game if they are EJ'd). The discussion centered around the fact that they were upset even though our coach tried to explain the advantage of us run-ruling them and saving our pitching for later in the tourney. The other coach could not understand that.
So my question when do you let off the gas. In my opinion its run rule plus a couple of assurance runs. Im guessing that 90% of the teams out there would have done the same thing. Though I may be wrong.