I am not sure what I would have done as a coach.
Why should those with more talent (obviously he was) have special priveledges? Wasn't his team and the coach depending upon him for their success. Sometimes in life we have to make choices, and think about how our choice may affect others. If a coach lets one miss games because of other team obligations, you have to let others, then you have players coming and going and doesn't that become difficult to run your team?
I am just throwing some things out there, thinking of a situation that happened for my son.
Many years ago he had gone to play USA and chosen for try outs. If he had made it, he would not have been able to travel on a travel team he had committed for and practices for to play in Atlanta the same time as the USA youth games in Mexico. He was an integral part of that team, and his teammates depended upon him. The coach was not happy, I didn't understand it at the time, but I do now. He had made a commitment, but decided to do what was best for him and we went along with it, because it seemed like how could you pass that up. He didn't make the team and was able to go play in Atlanta, the coach didn't punish him by sitting him out, because he liked son too much and knew he needed him. Kicking him off would have punished everyone. I think he had a better time in Atlanta anyway.
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That is one trip and tournament he talks about from his past,not his youth team try out. Besides, if you are talented and have to give up one opportunity, there will be plenty more in your life to look forward to.
Mine was one of those who was asked to give up his senior season and come to school early. Great opportunity, but he realized at that time, after the first experience that he couldn't disappoint his teammates he had played with for 4 years who were counting on him to help them get farther than any team had in many years. He put his team above himself. He, IMO was way above the HS level at that time but if you ask him he wouldn't have had it any other way. It was a great year, even with some team issues. Aren't these the things that we try to teach our offspring, or maybe these are the things that some parents try to instill in their children, not everyone, you have to learn to be a good team player before you can become a successful one. This is important in youth years, because later on that can fade away.
I just see more in youth sports than I ever have, it's all about me and what's good for me. That's good for some, not for others. JMO.