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K KmomNH100+ posts
I have a lovely bottle of Reisling in the fridge and I could really use some right about now, but I never figured out how to use a cork screw thingy and hubby's not home to do it for me. I may have to just smash the top of the bottle if this whole recruiting nightmare doesn't end soon.

In the past few weeks, son's new guidance couselor (we moved to a new town, hence he's in a different high school) has recommended that he attend a post grad year in order to bring his GPA up. His summer team coaches have said his GPA would put him on the bubble for admission to his preferred D1, but that he could probably play for a DII that he's also really interested in as long as he keeps his grades up throughout his senior year. That being said, they also told him that because the school has a really strong program, he'd have limited opportunity to contribute as a freshman, and that if he really wants to contribute as a freshman, he should consider going the juco route and transferring to a 4 year school later. Son saw his high school coach about a week later and hs coach said forget about juco or pg, you should go straight to a 4 year school.

Son is to have a one-on-one workout with a coach at one of the colleges in question on Friday, so today he went to bullpen with his pitching coach. Pitching coach told him that if he doesn't gain weight and get stronger FAST he won't be playing college ball at all. Son is 6'2", weight dropped to 160 after a bout with bronchitis and he hasn't been able to gain during the season. Fastball is 84-85.

So... I have a son who's been told to go PG, go to a juco, go to a 4yr college, and gain weight now or you're not going anywhere. Tonight, he's driving me nuts Nothing I've said has helped, so I'm going to drown my sorrows... just as soon as I figure out how to open that stupid bottle!
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L lafmom5,000+ posts
Mom, add some candles and a hot bath with that glass of wine and shut out all your worries. Sounds like you need a breather! Wine bottles give me a hard time too... just doesn't taste nearly as good with bits of cork, does it! Big Grin

Some people enjoy recruiting. I never understood why as my son and I thought it was less than an enjoyable experience. I think those that educate themselves early on what to expect and options are ahead of the game... that didn't include us.

Bottomline, you and your son are the ones that have to make the choice. Perhaps you can find one trusted advisor and discuss the options with them. I know everyone means well, but it gets too overwhelming with too much advice. Kinda like everyone having an opinion on when you should finally feed solids to your baby or what kind of car is best to buy... everyone's got an opinion!
MO mom of 2 catchers100+ posts
Holycow KmomNH--what a stressful week/day/month/etc you are having! Enjoy that wine--have some chocolate with it!

Now--how much weight did he lose (its the nurse in me coming out) and how long ago was it? I don't want to add to your worries, but in a month or two, most people should regain weight lost with an illness, even if they are busy. Is he too stressed to eat? (that is an oxymoron where I am concerned but I do know people like that.) The other worry is that there is something else going on, but surely there would be more than weight loss if there was.

Its only July, the early signing period isn't for a long time, I think that some time not worrying about making a decision ASAP would help both of you.

I couldn't tell you which "authority" to listen to, but I will take the female intuition route and tell you to step back, look at what D1 or D2 or JUCO can offer him both academically and athletically, and mull over it gently for a while. I think that the answer will make itself clear.

Now, for tonight: wine, chocolate, something salty, a warm bath with candles, some stress relieving romance type activity, and sleep is what this mom recommends for you! Good luck with that stupid cork!
F FormerObserver1,000+ posts
Momma,

Of all the coaches and couselors that you've talked with, none of them will make the ultimate decision.

They will never all come to the same consensus and give you the same answer.

They don't know individually or collectively.

Grades are important at all schools.

Freshman don't contribute much at D1's especially pitchers and/or pitchers at 84/85.

Juco is a safer less risky route, especially for a 6'2" 160 lb. pitcher.

The PG ranking or rating is helpful, but sizing up the other players while your son is at PG is an important factor.

Listen to the potential college coaches and counselors. The colleges coaches will tell you where or if your son fits into their programs. They'll give you some options to consider.

Then your son will make the ultimate decision.
O Orlando1,000+ posts
Not only does everyone have an opinion, but everyone has a position to defend which may have nothing to do with your son.

If grades and size are an issue, I would serioously consider the JuCo route --- smaller classes, more individual attention, fewer distractions, much better chance for immediate PT and, therefore, development. Basic required courses can be taken there as easily as a 4 year, just make sure he works with his academic advisor to make sure the credits will transfer.

As you're up in his neighborhood, I'd also recommend PMing TRHit, he'd be an excellant resource for evaluation and recommnedations on apprpopriate programs.

Best of luck!
K KmomNH100+ posts
Ahhhh, relief. Got the bottle open, poured the wine through a strainer to fish out all the little bits of cork left behind, got some nice Vermont cheddar, Ritz crackers, a couple of strawberries, and one frozen Ring Ding for good measure. Spoke with son a little while ago. He sounds calmer today - but he still wants his body to magically adjust its size before Friday so that he can kick his velocity up a notch. Weight in the spring was at 175 and he was working to get up to 185. Then he got sick, dropped to 165 then to 160, and while he's no longer losing weight, he's not gaining either, so he's really frustrated (doctor has been consulted - health is not at risk). Doesn't help that he has a typical pitcher's body (tall, lean, lanky, etc).

Since I'm old enough to have watched my brother Mike go through this, and having seen pics of my dad at the same age and then at 21, I know that son's body is going to suddenly become much broader, but its not going to happen for another couple of years. My dad's body changed from when he was between 20 and 21 and Mike's changed in about a 6 month period when he was 22. Son knows he is genetically following the same pattern as his uncle and his grandfather but would prefer that his body change by... um... tomorrow.

As for where he'll go to school... I'm okay with any of the options presented, but I'm not a 17 yr old boy with teammates committing to D1 schools. I have faith that he'll end up at the right school at the right time but patience is not high on son's list of virtues. Good thing he's a cute kid and he's kind of grown on me over the years. I wouldn't go through this process for anybody else.
MO mom of 2 catchers100+ posts
ditto on the cute kid theory, the things we do for those cute kids who used to call us Mommy. I can remember when catcher #1 was just old enough to understand what love meant, he looked at me so seriously and said "I wuv oo Mom", still brings tears to my eyes! Now, catcher #2 started out a little more sassy--one day I was nearly insane trying to study and keep track of the little guys and I yelled at them "You are driving me crazy". Cute toddler Catcher #2 very seriously looked at me and said "Mom, you cwazy all by you self" Ahhhh, the memories.

I'm glad you are having a better day Kmom, Pitcher son will do just fine on Friday. Good luck to him (and you)!
MN-MomMN-MomHSBaseballWeb Owner
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Cute toddler Catcher #2 very seriously looked at me and said "Mom, you cwazy all by you self"


Mom of 2 C, that is SO-O-O-O-O cute!

Reminds me of when my older son (I have 2 boys, 21 and 19) was just beginning to talk. We're the only ones in the house and I hear a tiny voice calling quietly, "Hon..." "Hon..." as in Honey, the name my husband most often calls me. Since this was my first child, he hadn't heard anyone call me Mom, and thought my name was "hun". Gosh, they were all so cute when they were little, weren't they?

Julie
K KmomNH100+ posts
Check out:

http://www.drakescakesonline.com/

You'll find regular Ring Dings, chocolate mousse Ring Dings, Yodels... all the good stuff for high stress snacking. Hostess has similar snacks with different names. I'm sure you've got them in Texas. If all else fails, skip the snack cakes and go straight for a nice bag of Dove chocolates. Or Dove ice cream bars. Or maybe a pint of that wonderful new Dove ice cream with the dark chocolate on top....

Its really okay. I'd worry about weight gain, but I'm pretty sure the stress of living with a teenage son and a might-as-well-be-teenage husband is burning plenty of calories.

Mn-Mom and momof2 I can just picture your little guys saying those things. They are sooo adorable at that age. Well... except the time my then 4 yr old walked in on me while I was changing and ran back out yelling "Mom, you're naked, I'm going to be sick". Let me tell you, that'll do a number on your ego Roll Eyes
FutureBack.MomFutureBack.Mom1,000+ posts
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If all else fails, skip the snack cakes and go straight for a nice bag of Dove chocolates. Or Dove ice cream bars. Or maybe a pint of that wonderful new Dove ice cream with the dark chocolate on top....


I LOVE Dove chocolates ... can't find a creamier piece of candy as far as I am concerned. Their ice cream is also good but has anybody tried some of the Starbucks' ice creams? I prefer to have my coffee hot and in a cup, but hubby likes coffee ice cream (on pound cake ... no calories there) so I bought the Java Chip by Starbucks because it was on sale and less expensive than the Hagan Daas coffee ice cream. Well, I am here to tell you all that even I, one who does not like coffee ice cream, could eat a lot of that Java Chip ... creamy, just a hint of coffee, a touch of mocha flavor, and very big chips/chunks of chocolate. Hmmmmm good (sorry Campbell kids) ... !!!
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