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Well I did just that and will never ever forgive myself as long as I live. Why you ask, because I was intimidated by the coach and his reputation for never ever playing a kid if a parent says anything to him. Shame on me!!!!
Sandlot, your experience isn't unique and still occurs more often than many want to admit. The view in the rear view mirror is very clear. The problem for most parents is that they don't believe it will happen to their son and if the truth be known, they're often afraid that they may hurt their sons playing time if they step up. Another issue, is the parent often isn't knowledgeable enough to speak to the coach on baseball matters. You need to become informed!
What many are missing, I believe, is that as youth players we the parents ARE responsible for protecting them. It is our primary job! There are lots of baseball Coaches in the world. They are individuals and have their own ideas on any subject you can mention, protecting pitching arms is only one of them. Their perspective could be sound, and then again it may be affected by what they consider higher priorities.
If they are true professionals, any discussion you have with them should be a smooth one! It's the ones' that believe they know everything and are omnipotent, where the disagreements occur. I would remind them that your player is a minor and as such, you the parent are morally and legally responsible for their well being and you don't mind speaking with the AD, along with the coach, on the subject! If it's a Travel team Coach that can't or won't talk on the subject, find a coach whose priorities are more in line with yours.
Until they are out of H.S. I believe it's the parents job to communicate explicitly with both their son and his coaching staff regarding what you think makes sense physically. Hopefully, there will be a consensus. Rational people generally can reach agreement.
Once they graduate H.S. and head off as legal 18 yr. old adults, it's up to them to responsibly care for their body and figure out how to work that out with the coaching staff. Additionally, it's also up to them to continue whatever exercise, conditioning, methods have worked to keep them safe even if it need be done on their own time.