Too many variables. There are simply too many variables to point at one thing in youth pitchers. Unless you have an overhand arm slot - guess what - you really don't throw a true curve ball. Depending on how it's gripped, how it's thrown etc.
Overuse is bad. I'm not saying it isn't. But pitch counts etc is not a "one size fits all" kind of thing. Some kids are more physically mature at certain ages than other kids at the same age...that's normal.
I will say that I think that the big difference - that no one seems to talk about - is actually pretty simple. I think kids of younger and younger ages are being taught GREAT pitching mechanics. Mechanics that allow their body to throw harder than their body can sometimes handle.
I coached rec and a lot of travel ball. I constantly had to talk to other coaches to make sure some of my kids weren't pitching at rec ball games during the week, then showing up on the weekend - saying they hadn't pitched. I expected parents to do this and I even talked to my parents about it and many times got a blank look.
Or more common - Kid has pitching lessons on Monday night. Rec practice / game on Wednesday night. Travel practice on Friday night. Travel games on Sat / Sun. Really? At the young ages they just want to PLAY BALL - so parents and coaches have to set limits and rules. I was shocked, at least first, how little intervention I saw from parents / coaches when it came to pitching.
MORE THROWING - less pitching. And YES there is definitely a difference.
And also there is many times more going on than meets the eye. I remember teaching my young travel pitchers (9-10 years old) something we called the "football" pitch. They called it the "slip" pitch when I was a kid. I looks and acts like a legit breaking ball on the short mound. After one tournament game, a coach from the opposing team came up and proceeded to lecture me on how I was "Ruining kids arms" teaching them the curve. My son just happened to be walking by and he had pitched the last two innings against this team.
"Son, do you throw a curve ball?"
Kid: "No Dad, I throw the football." (Looking at me like I was stupid - since I taught it to him.)
Hold a baseball literally like you would a football when throwing a spiral. Throw it, keeping the open end of the 'C' made with the thumb and pointer finger pointing to the sky the ENTIRE time. No wrist or elbow rotation / pronation. Literally - just LIKE throwing a spiral with a football. The kid showed them. The next year they showed up with all their kids throwing it. Unfortunately for them, the first thing I do after showing kids how to throw that pitch is how to RECOGNIZE a breaking pitch and wait for it to break then hit it.
Natural arm slot - again my lowly opinion - is a BIG DEAL that almost no one talks about. When I coached the LITTLE guys, I had them pick up a rock and throw it at a target. How they NATURALLY throw it is their arm slot. I was never a fan of the "reach back and pet the dog" or other tricks meant to promote an over the top arm slot, when most pitchers do NOT have a natural over the top arm slot to begin with.
Back when I pitched, I threw a 12-6 CB. I remember days when my arm was sore (legion ball) and while it HURT to throw a FB, I could throw curve balls all day with zero pain.....as a real 12-6 is throw with the fingers / wrist - not the arm or elbow.
Also many times we use "slider" or "Curve ball" to describe pitches that aren't. I had a highly respected pitching coach teach me a slider when I was 17. Everytime I threw it I felt a slight twinge in my elbow. Door knob slider comes to mind - fortunately I learned hard lessons to NOT teach to my kid or others. Pitches should not hurt when throwing them.
My lowly 2 cents