Texas 2 Sons posted:Cabbage I appreciate the thoughtfulness with your response. This thread honestly doesn't have anything to do with that thread. In fact my 2019 and I had an honest conversation about things this past wknd during a tourney and it went better than I could have expected.
The premise of this thread is something that I've thought about and dealt with since my son started playing LL some 12 yrs ago. I've seen 1st hand where this has helped kids stand out long term and when it was only short term. I've always thought that the only reason a kid should be held back is for academics. If not, then the parent is only trying to give their kid an advantage that they weren't born with. The school system used to frown upon parents doing this and so did society, but somewhere along the way that changed. IMO parents are taking advantage of a loophole that changes the natural balance of order, mostly because they didn't want their child to be average.
There's a sense of fairness (and yes I know life's not fair) that's being trampled on. I don't have a problem with my 16 yr old competing against and being judged against his peer group of other 16yr olds for a chance to play college ball. There will always be someone bigger, stronger, faster than him who's his peer. I just think forcing him to have to compete with 17yr olds for the same opportunities isn't right, let them compete with other 17 yr olds. My son was the starting SS for his varsity team this year and the #2 starter, so I'm not talking about playing in HS. I'm talking about playing at the next level at the best possible college he can.
Well, what do you think is going to happen the first day he steps foot on that college field? He is going to compete with guys 3,4,5 years older for the same position. Why the heck wouldn't you 100% encourage him to embrace that challenge every day instead of let it bother you for 12 years?
Then, if he earns PT at that position, the next year the coach is going to try to bring someone in that is better than him... maybe a JC transfer or a bigger, better recruit. You are thinking just about the playing field that leads up to the offer. The most important part of college baseball is what happens after that. If your son is talented enough, which I suspect he is, it won't matter what the "held back" kid gets offered. Your son will make his way to a good place based on his own merits. But he will need to have the mindset that he is ready and willing to take on all challengers, no matter what obstacles lie in front of him.
It is really great to hear that you and son had a good conversation. I respectfully disagree that this thread doesn't have anything to do with the other