15 years ago, I remember standing on the other side of this debate (and feeling certain of my stance). Having since seen lots of every type of travel team, heard from hundreds of parents and coaches, coached teams from 10’s thru HS and college showcase, attended countless youth and HS tourneys, college camps and showcases, I now find myself with a different perspective.
I think one of the benefits of belonging to a competitive club team include constant competition for playing time against a group of other skilled players. I also think a benefit of being part of a club organization usually includes some schedule of practices, workouts and/or training. This should be largely what you invest in - not the assumption that your player is guaranteed x amount of playing time in games. Yes, the overall experience should certainly include a reasonable degree of game innings but not to the point where a parent is counting innings and doing comparisons.
I think it is nearly impossible to satisfy the expectations of every paying travel parent, regardless of how well things are communicated up front. Just look at all the differing opinions here on this one topic by lots of good baseball people who have been through the process.
I think 13-14 is not too young to start learning about the competitive nature of sport at the next level, particularly for those who choose travel/club ball with aspirations to reach a rung or two higher. If you think those kids should be coddled all the way up to HS and then expect them to just be able to flip a switch and handle stiffer competition, tougher coaches and the prospect of not getting playing time right away, you are not doing them any favors.
I think the majority of travel coaches, including the good and upstanding, are open to improving their team/s by adding good players when the situation presents itself. There are many good reasons why a team would do so, including the points PG made. It is wrong to assume they are all trophy chasers, although there is certainly some benefit to creating a winning culture in the program. Some are trying to build a program that can compete/be accepted at the bigger tourneys so their players can get more exposure. Some are doing the same so they can provide better resources for their program by attracting more customers. Some are trying to elevate the playing level so that it raises the level of the rest of the team. Some are trying to make a business of their passion to help provide kids with a competitive platform to play more ball and pursue their dreams. The opportunity they provide for your kids is more likely to perpetuate if the teams they put on the field are strong and kids who belong to the program succeed in reaching the next level. Yes, of course that should occur in large part due to the improved development of the existing core group of players but in almost all cases, it also happens with the addition of more good players who can both help and benefit from the program. Also, sometimes the caliber of the tourney may necessitate the need for a few better players to allow a team to compete.
So, at the end of the day, the lesson here should be that you get as much information up front as possible from a prospective club/travel team. Look for a reasonable fit where your player is challenged - he isn’t the most or least talented. The quality and amount of practice/training outside of games should reasonably match your expectations. There are limited options for most and you aren't going to find "perfect". But don’t look at it as a bad thing if the program legally tries to better itself by adding better players when they have the opportunity. Have your player prepared to earn, and subsequently fight to keep, a good portion of playing time by working hard and performing. Help them understand that the benefits of belonging to the right program go far beyond number of innings played.
As always, the aspiring competitive athlete should have the "take on all comers" attitude.
PS - I also think PGStaff is quickly becoming the smartest "I'm not very smart" guy I know