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You can almost the divide the comments in this thread , without knowing posters, as youth and experience. Baseball is like LIFE. In fact in many cases it is life.
My Senior year in college (let's see... just under a thousand years ago) I went to a "group interview session" (you know, Weyerhauser shows up on campus with a bag of maybe 6 jobs, some of them intern, and interviews 100 kids). Sitting in the waiting room for my turn to WOW them, I was the only one with a coat and tie on (it WAS 1976). One of my classmates, also there for a turn, looked over at me, wearing a shirt and jeans, and looking me up-and-down, said..."who are you trying to impress wearing a tie?" My response at the time (very tongue in cheek) was... "yeah, you're probably right..." Oh, and I got one of two job offers that day.
Do you want to take that chance that the guy who's there to see you, in sports, in business, future father-in-law, is a free spirit... one who doesn't care if you brushed your teeth this morning, didn't clean the mud off your spikes, wouldn't get a haircut for the interview?
Society for 1000 years has had expected norms.... sure, they change, as life has to adapt. But being the James Dean (Rebel Without A Cause) in any situation has far more downside opportunities than upside. Is it fair? Why can't society see me for who I am? For the spirit I wish to be? "I want them to hire me for who I am, not how I dress..."
No, it's probably not fair. But it is what it is. And as long as there are 7 guys sitting next to you, in the "waiting room" (read dugout, foxhole, et al) and the only differing factor is a hat on backwards, I would chose to be the one not willing to leave my destiny in factors which I could have some say, but have no real control. I have known young people to not even be granted any interview for being 3 minutes late, good excuse or not, as there are no good excuses for lack of discipline.
Those among you who fit into the "youth category", who don't agree with those of us in the "experience category".... all I can say is we were all there not so long ago, made all the same claims that you are making, and those of us who have had some success in life (whether it be sports, commerce, or affairs of the heart) did not achieve it by wearing our hats backwards. We did it by playing by the rules of those who went ahead of us. For the time being, until you switch jobs with us, until you are setting the "norm" and we head off to white shoes, 4PM dinner and condos in Miami... you're pretty much being chosen based on our expectations.
I'd better get off this soapbox, before I fall off.
Life is not a breakfast cereal. Now go do the right thing.
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