Don't be a Sad Dog,everyone makes their own path.
Try not to get caught up in what is happening with others, makes life real frustrating. Try to stay focused on what you want.
We have experienced two completely different scenarios on our way to the next level. Older son never attended a showcase,he played Legion ball and his high school team won league his senior year. He just got a call from a scout one day asking him if he would like to play on his fall scout team (for free). He got all of his offers from participating on that team. By the time younger son graduated two years later,our school district had expanded our baseball talent was split between two schools (most going to the other school) and on top of that, we got a new coach that was horribly disorganized and was not interested in the seniors at all. My son was extremely disappointed in the season and total lack of attention he received. He had been invited to one showcase his jr. year and received lots of letters of interest, but he had his sights set on a certain school, and they were lukewarm at best.
All of the JC's in our area spoke with him more than a few times. He was just so stuck on this one school, he was kind of in an all or nothing mode.
This one coach from a JC came to see him in one of his last HS games. He walked with us toward the bus and mentioned that he hadn't really planned on staying for the whole game, he was scheduled to see a couple of other guys that day as well. There was just something about my son, he said, something that compelled him to stay and watch. They had several converstions after that, but son decided he wasn't going to play....sad iheartbb
Throughout the summer he hit the cages and did long toss - just fun stuff, and when everyone starting talking about leaving for college, the thought of not playing finally struck him...if he went away to the college he planned, he would not be playing baseball....about two weeks later he called the JC coach and was received very enthusiastically. Happy iheartbb
The old saying "Go where you are wanted". That coach wanted him. This is what was meant to be for him, he made the team, did really well in fall ball, will be a two-way player OF/LHP, and he will be PLAYING.
Bottomline is, it sure doesn't happen the same way for everyone, even when you're in the same family
It only takes one coach to see the possibilities. Hang in there.