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Originally posted by NDD:
I agree with a lot of what you posted, some of it not at all. Pointless to compare them? When that is what they dream of doing? They are comparing themselves, the coaches, the game, everything. If we don't talk about it, where does that leave the player.
Everybody wants to win, nobody wants to be given up on. You just said it's pointless to compare them and then basically said winning is everything.
Hit or sit is what you originally said, now it seems there are caveats. Which is what I was getting at in the first place.
You really think hitting off a tee is going to solve a slump? Really? They don't not hit because of mechanics, they don't hit because of their heads. Sitting, more tee work, another 150 swings in the cage isn't going to fix that. If he hit yesterday and doesn't today, that's mental.
Quick at bats? When he's struggling? What else could we possibly expect. Let a pitcher get ahead in a count and he'll never see another pitch to hit. Ugly at bats? Of course they are - he's desperate.
You think sitting a 16 year-old is going to give him a more positive frame of mind?
You don't need to question the mental toughness of a 16 year-old boy. I can give you that answer on a silver platter.
When you sit them you are telling them they need to start performing and right now.
Yes, it's part of the game. I have never seen you coach. What I have seen is coaches that sit them and move on to the next task. And then what happens? One of two things - he either gets lucky and comes out of it in the next chance or he gets isolated and gives up.
Pointless to compare HS to the MLB? When in both of them apparently winning is everything?
Yes, it's part of the game and a part they have to learn. But do they learn better being dumped a full load of adversity or being vaccinated by being given smaller does they can handle?
If you sit a 16 year old and tell him "You're not hitting, as soon as you start, you'll play again." What is he going to do?
Try harder.
When the problem was he was already trying too hard.
We aren't talking about people that shouldn't have been on the team in the first place or who have never had success of course.
A 16 year-old is not a younger man. He is a 16 year-old. They are different.
Seriously???? Are you really being serious with this?
The reason you can't compare MLB and HS 0 - 15's is due to the effect it can have on your batting average and confidence and probably win total for the team. It's NOT ok for a HS player to have an 0 - 15 because it will destroy him and the team but it's not really going to phase a MLB. An 0 - 15 in HS is about 2 weeks of the season whereas it's 3 - 4 games in MLB. There is a HUGE difference in those two.
Yes I believe getting back on a tee or other drills can solve a slump. I've seen it happen. I've also seen a day off help solve a slump. Nobody knows what causes a slump and there's no real cure for a slump. It's something you have to figure out and work through.
Of course there are caveats and I thought they would be understood but obviously not. There's a huge difference between a 4 - 4 with all duckfarts that get over the 2Bman and a 1 - 4 with all line shots where one got through. I've had days like these and felt better about myself on the 1 - 4 day than the 4 - 4. Other people I've played with and had play for me felt the same way. Yeah you can take some good from the 4 - 4 day but deep down you know you should do better. Using your "if he hit yesterday and doesn't today, that's mental" let me say first that this kid's not going to sit. That's one of those caveats that I guess went understood. Also, I don't think the day that you don't hit is a mental problem. He faced a better pitcher, the defense was positioned just right and other things like that first. If it was mental then the strongest person mentally may never get out.
If someone is desperate that tells me it's time for a day off to relax and get the mind right. If he's desperate do you think another 3 games will cure him? He's going to keep digging that hole deeper. I don't know how things are done with you but I'm not going to sit a kid without talking to them and tell them what's going on. I'm going to say "hey man you're struggling right now and I can see it's getting to you. I'm going to give you the day off and let you just chill today. Get back in a good mindset and support your team mates. You're back in there tomorrow." Now it's in their court as to how they handle it. If they want to see that as adding more pressure then they need to overcome it. If they want to see it for what it is then it will probably help.
I can't talk about what other coaches do but if a guy who has started at one point during the season has been sat down for performance I'm not going to give up on them. We're going to work during practice to get better but it's up to them. Are they going to do the work and are they going to show signs of improvement? If so then I'm going to give them another chance. But you also have to factor in if his replacement is tearing the cover off the ball. If the replacement is mashing then it will be harder to get back in the lineup. It's called competition not welfare.
I can't follow your line of thinking. What I'm reading is that if you have a player struggling you just leave them in the lineup and they will eventually fix it. If that's what you're saying then why do you have a bench? Why have players in reserve if you're only going to play the one's who start? You owe it to them to give them a chance when the starter fails. I wish I could say every guy I've pegged as a starter panned out but I've had guys who I thought were better and had the tools just not pan out but the replacement plays out of this world. So what's your solution here? Let's go with 8 positions on the field (pitching is it's own world) and you have one weak spot. Do you accept this and tell the guys on the bench thanks for wearing a uniform but you're sticking with the guy struggling or do you make a change to get production out of 8 instead of 7 positions?
You talk about destroying confidence and all that but when you leave a guy in the lineup you are killing the confidence of the guys on the bench. You're making them start to question the concept of the team. It will eventually destory your team. The guys on the bench will resent the starter because they aren't getting a chance and the other starters are going to resent him since he's not getting the job done. So where do they all eventually turn their anger towards???? The coach and the team crumbles.
What would it take for you to finally sit a guy struggling? It seems like a two week 0 - 15 struggle isn't it. Would you let him go three weeks or four weeks? By that point about 2/3 of the season's over and that guy has probably cost you several games. I'm not talking about getting the game winning hit in the bottom of the seventh. I'm talking about not driving in the run in the third inning or not getting on base to start rallies or things like that. When do you take them out?
There is nothing wrong with telling someone to try harder. It's part of the developing mental toughness things we all have to go through. Kids need to face adversity and learn to overcome it. They need chances to learn this but at some point you have to chalk it up to them not being able to learn it. Getting replaced might be the thing that clicks to get them to learn it or maybe it drives them away from the game. If it's the latter then they probably weren't going to make it anyway.
All a coach can do is give them a chance and opportunities to learn. That goes for everyone on the team including the bench players to step up if someone cannot take advantage of their chance.
A 16 year isn't a younger man but he's on the path to manhood. So he needs to learn how to become a man and how to handle failure. A man is going to face many more things way tougher in life than getting benched. He may lose his job, his parents are going to pass away, his wife may get sick or pass away, same with children and all kinds of other things. You need to be a man to handle those situations and you learn how to be a man when you're a teenager by working through whether they can hold onto a starting position because in the grand scheme of things it's not that big of a deal. It's part of the learning process to become a man. It's a smaller event at a younger time that seems like it's the world to them but it's preparation for the bigger things that life is going to throw at you. A good parent, teacher and coach will help them work through it when they are younger so they can learn to be a man.
I'm sorry but your post is coming across to me as a selfish parent. What's best for my son and leave him alone until he gets it. I don't really blame you because that's what you're supposed to do. But in the real world that's not how it works. You don't perform in your job they're not going to give you unlimited chances to get it done. They're going to fire you and go to the bench to find someone who can.