I don't know why anyone would play for a travel program that wouldn't offer ample playing time opportunities. There'll be plenty of time for learning how to wait on the bench for your turn, or to come face to face with the impact of your own limitations. People seem to forget that it's a GAME and the idea is to PLAY IT. At the college and pro level, yes it's more of a JOB at that point. So sitting the bench can wait until then IMHO.
That being said, a lot of what is being discussed above is a result of the helicopter parenting explosion, fueled in large part by the historically high levels of disposable income and wealth in America. (And yes, I know there's been a recession, but if you doubt the numbers, you can look 'em up.)
Johnny Bench once said Little League was a waste. Kids get uniforms, then go play 16 games where they get maybe 50 AB's all season. He played sandlot ball and got 50 AB's or more PER DAY. I do think we see more and more kids whose swings have been honed to perfection, but they lack feel for the nuances of how the game is played. And they don't wake up each summer day planning to head to the corner lot to see who shows up and get playing for 6-7 hours, either. That's a doggone shame. I think the kids are missing out.
I also have been perplexed by the explosion of kids who have cranky throwing motions. It seems to me all that should've gotten taken care of in youth recreational ball. I recall having discussions with young players about proper grip and throwing mechanics and drills, etc. Of course, many kids would say, "But that's not how I like to do it!" And my reply would be, "I think you have mis-perceived the nature of this conversation. You think we are having a two-way discussion. But actually, I am just telling you how you will throw if you wish to play. Because your team needs you to perform at a certain level, or else everything falls apart for all your teammates, and we can't have that. So, your personal preferences are totally irrelevant. Now, go do the drills."
I never had to have that discussion twice. Over time, I did get a few nasty parent e-mails. Those went into the "who cares?" file. Some parents think their child should never be spoken to by anyone asserting authority. Those parents are wrong. The rest of us move on.
I fear that things like the Positive Coaching Alliance have been distorted so as to interpret proper adult authority and instruction as "mean." But I don't know how anyone is supposed to run any group of youngsters if each and every one of them is free to go his own way and none of them bear any feeling of responsibility to the team unit, nor to their teammates. I'm not talking about veins bulging, spit flying, screaming. I'm just talking about making clear who's in charge and what the expectations are, and then actually teaching the game to the kids, as opposed to just running a free babysitting service.
The reality is, most youngsters don't play baseball competitively into their mid-teens, much less in HS or college. So it seems to me we're missing the opportunity to use baseball to teach life skills, all so that we can enhance the self-indulgent attitudes that are now surfacing more and more among adults as the former children age out of school.
The way this is coming to a head in my area is that whereas ten years ago there were 10 kids touching or exceeding 90 mph on a regular basis, this year I know of 2. Hooray, the 78 mph fastball is making a comeback! I guess that's what people wanted. After all, every year I have to read some post from someone complaining that no one appreciates their mid-70's son. Well, to all those, your time has come!