TPM,
Before I answer your questions I want you to realize something. You do not know me. I expect people to be mature and able to make tough decisions from an early age and I feel anything short of that is an injustice to that person. It is their life, not mine. Let that person make their own decision.
You said this... "Don't people read entire post anymore?" Practice what you preach.
To answer your somewhat outrageous questions.
do you allow a hitter to steal base on his own or does he get direction from the coaching staff?
If you are a quality base runner with good speed go ahead and steal the base on your own. I'm sure many coaches would agree.
How about for pitchers, do you allow the guys to call their own game, what happens when they throw what they want and mess up, is the coach/manager going to be happy or unhappy?
Sure many times the players will call their own game, and if they mess up that is what happens. We review what happened and go after it more prepared the next time.
So you are saying that the pitcher should have told the coach "no", because he is 20-21 years old and should know better?
Uhh... I'd hope you expect that from anyone that age. I mean they do help select our President and various other government officials. They also, if 21, have the chance to drink alcohol which comes with a lot of tough decisions. If they can't stand up and make tough decisions, we as a society have issues.
And because you as a player played often being hurt when younger that others should do the same?
Once again, practice what you preach. No, I don't want my players playing hurt or being put in this situation. That isn't the point, the point is that they can say NO!
Managers/coaches are there to protect the players from making BONEHEAD decisions, just as parents are there to protect their young players.
Maybe you didn't have anyone who stood up for you or told you enough was enough.
I didn't want anyone to stand up for me. Sorry TPM but the issue here is this, kids need to realize these are their decisions not their parent's and not their coach's. We as a society hinder the growth of young people because we want them to be protected from making bad decisions instead of them learning how to make good ones. If at 20-21 yo this kid isn't old enough to make decisions then maybe the best thing for him is to make a bad one on his own so he can learn the consequences.
If so that should make you a better coach at protecting young players.
Reread the post. Once again practice what you preach.
It is more than frustrating for me to see someone say "Don't people read entire post anymore?" and then in the same. exact. thread. they go on to do exactly what they called someone out on.
There are your answers to your questions. I hope you will realize that parents with mindsets such as yours are the reason that being successful and mature at a young age is such a rare thing. Many people in our society want to make decisions for our young people so they don't make bad decisions, but when it comes down to them needing to make decisions they have never done it before. I'm sorry but almost no one in our world learns from success. We learn from failure, which is why I said that I would not change the way my baseball career went. Because of this I will help players and students realize the consequences of their decisions but I will not make those decisions for them. They do not learn anything from that.