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The dictionary's definition of integrity:
adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

Ol' Shortstopmom's home definition of integrity:
Doing the right thing, when no one is looking. Wink Big Grin

Bulldog19, you are welcome to dinner at our house anytime! I like your way of thinkin'.
The very best to you this special Senior year!!
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As much as it makes me cringe, I always seem to find a way to remind myself of the stupid mistakes I made when I was a teen. Yes, I’ve been there and benefited from a few second chances myself. The painful reminders help keep me honest in how I treat the kids that I’m charged with teaching.

I completely agree with the notion that the punishment fits the crime, but that’s not always going to be the case these days. Many lessons can be taught by example. For many, things are taught and learned the hard way. In the case I cited, a valuable lesson was lost by making an exception. I wish more effort went into teaching by example, maybe it would help kids better learn the difference between the way things should be, and the way things are. I also worry about the kids that don’t do anything wrong in such cases, as it’s easy to see how they could get the wrong message. It’s not easy for me to watch a kid become disillusioned.

School administrators don’t always make the best law makers. That’s not a knock; it’s just not an area of competence that can be easily added onto a person’s job description. Many admins are so caught up in the CYA mentality that learning and compassion are not even issues. It seems sometimes when rules for teens are drawn up we lose sight of the objective. In the interest of deterrence, fairness becomes the first thing to get thrown out. But let’s not make more excuses for the way things are. Kids need rules, and they need to know that the rules don’t bend for them.

Honestly, and for the life of me, I can't understand how we are so eager to put an at risk kid into a dangerous situation by removing all natural life supports in order to teach him or her a good lesson. That kind of punishment should be reserved for adults, and youths that are dangers to society. By kicking an SA off a team, you risk punishing him irrevocably by removing what is most dear in his life, sometimes forever. You run the risk of pushing them further out to the fringe. We’ve got to be real careful how we dole that punishment out.

CPLZ, I’m more inclined to making them sit with their peers while they watch. The punishment would still be not playing, but someone, actually many, would be watching them.

I really don’t know how athletes in our society got to the point where they’re held to a higher standard, but to state the obvious, it is what it is. It seems odd to me that we want our entertainers and celebrities to be more than a little naughty- a DUI for a celeb can be a badge of honor, unless they go on an anti-Semitic rampage like Mel Gibson. Not our athletes though, they’ve got to be perfect.

Someone here brought up the concept of peer pressure, sometimes known as shame. Shame is a very effective mechanism for social change, maybe more effective than guilt, and it’s something that teens understand very well. Maybe we should use it more.
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quite a few thoughtful views expressed

I gotta feel like I'm living on borrowed time coming from an era when the legal age was 18 ..
going out in a car with no seatbelts, freon in the AC, & a tank full of leaded gas
I need mention the flagman holding up traffic on the interstate for drag race heats only if the statute of limitations has run out


it's hard to believe UGA is really that tough ...
a freshman footballer & enterprenure was wrist slapped for manufacturing fake ID's for sale,

tho another player was told to hit the road after breaking into UGA to steal files on his 2nd (reported) offense drunkeness hearing
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I know I've mentioned this before but I'd like to once more, I know Bulldog19. One of the best kids from one of the best families I've ever met!

Regarding drinking etc. We played a game this weekend on the road. As we drove to that game, I pointed out to my coaching staff the point where a tragic car wreck occurred when I was in school. While no one died, most of the guys in that wreck were unable to recover. Personally, I have never had a drink. I think it tragic that most don't believe that statement. "Having a beer," has become a "right of passage" it seems in our society. Sad! I often speak to my team about drugs and alcohol. I tell them that I understand all of the pressure and I hope I demonstrate that you can have a great life without alcohol or drugs. (BTW, I've always tried to keep my religious beliefs seperate from this discussion.) In the end, we have to temper our reactions, trust that our school code is fair, and do what is best for both program and kid. JMHO!
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Originally posted by obrady:
As a new resident to Texas, we informed day one that if a player even attended a party where alcohol was present, they better leave. He said that last year, a kid had a picture taken of he and his girlfriend at such a party, the picture was posted on the web and in the back ground was someone with a beer. UIL rules, he was dismissed form the team.


He wasn't dismissed from the team, but expelled for 5 days. He couldn't play games or attend workouts during that time.
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Originally posted by Coachee:
Have been told that a athlete can not legally be held to a higher standard than a regular student, basically you can not take action against a athlete unless the violation is one that would be imposed on a regular student for the same violation.Comments ??????????
Participating in Athletics and representing your school is a privilage and with privilages there is responsibility. While in the eye of the law there is not a "separation" in the the eye of the athlete there should be an amount of personal pride that separates you from the rest. Athletes often put themselves on a pedistal until they slip and then use the "excuse" that they should not be treated any differently.

One of my son's high school teammates was found guilty  of being drunk at  school based on the  statement  of another student.  No administrative witnesses and no evidence other than the student's statement.  That was enough to have him kicked off the team for the season, even though baseball had not even started.  There is one form of due process in the school building and there is a different due process in the real world. 

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too.tall posted:

One of my son's high school teammates was found guilty  of being drunk at  school based on the  statement  of another student.  No administrative witnesses and no evidence other than the student's statement.  That was enough to have him kicked off the team for the season, even though baseball had not even started.  There is one form of due process in the school building and there is a different due process in the real world. 

If it's a public school the kid as all the same rights he has on the street. Would you say the kid was denied due process?

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RJM posted:
too.tall posted:

One of my son's high school teammates was found guilty  of being drunk at  school based on the  statement  of another student.  No administrative witnesses and no evidence other than the student's statement.  That was enough to have him kicked off the team for the season, even though baseball had not even started.  There is one form of due process in the school building and there is a different due process in the real world. 

If it's a public school the kid as all the same rights he has on the street. Would you say the kid in your situation was denied due process? Here's another student drinking and rights situation. I do know the attorney is a neighbor and took the case pro bono.

http://www.necn.com/news/new-e..._NECN-252152841.html

Yes, the kid in my situation was denied the right to confront his accuser. The statement of the

student was taken as incontrovertible proof. 

 

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too.tall posted:
RJM posted:
too.tall posted:

One of my son's high school teammates was found guilty  of being drunk at  school based on the  statement  of another student.  No administrative witnesses and no evidence other than the student's statement.  That was enough to have him kicked off the team for the season, even though baseball had not even started.  There is one form of due process in the school building and there is a different due process in the real world. 

If it's a public school the kid as all the same rights he has on the street. Would you say the kid in your situation was denied due process? Here's another student drinking and rights situation. I do know the attorney is a neighbor and took the case pro bono.

http://www.necn.com/news/new-e..._NECN-252152841.html

Yes, the kid in my situation was denied the right to confront his accuser. The statement of the

student was taken as incontrovertible proof. 

 

This isn't a criminal issue. There is no right to confront an accuser.

A good school/school district will have a well defined policy and procedure for dealing with student behavior.  The student in question and his family should find out what the procedure is and take action to ensure their student is treated fairly.  This includes having an appeal process all the way through the school board.

On another note, if this does not involve your son you probably do not have all the facts.  Many many times the rumors going around do not match up to the actual facts of the case.  This includes the stories told by those involved.  Many times they are trying to "save face".  The school will not release all the facts to the general public as they have to protect the rights of under-aged children.  Unless this directly involves your child the odds are there is information you are missing.

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Why isn't it a criminal issue? It's illegal to have alcohol if you're under 21 isn't it? I agree that information is likely missing. Laws are pretty strict on releasing information about students. My concern is that often schools handle issues internally and cause themselves problems when it would be perhaps smarter to turn it over to law enforcement and let them deal with it — but that scares many administrators who want control over the situation. IMO.

Its both a school issue and a criminal issue.  Knowing how schools work, it was most likely discussed with the School Resource Office (if they have one).  The SRO can then make a decision on moving forward with the issue.  If it was only a rumor of the kid drinking, the SRO is most likely not going to issue a citation as he needs proof that will hold up in court.

If the kid is an athlete, he most likely signed a code of conduct with the school.   This is a contractual relationship with the school and not a criminal law relationship. Contractual relationships can be enforced outside the law and for some reason the school choose to do that.  We do not know what the schools investigation has found.  Maybe its not his first offense.  Maybe he admitted to it behind closed doors.  Maybe none of that happened and he is innocence.  We do not know all the details and anyone outside of the student, his family and the school administrator that dealt with the problem does not know either.

In most cases the school will not discuss the issue with anyone other then the student and his family.  This includes the kid making the accusation, other students or teachers.  There are legal reasons for this.  He is a minor and in most states the school will legal consequences as well as put itself in a position to be sued.  

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woody4220 posted:
Disturbing news out of my son's HS today...4 seniors booted off the team for drinking alcohol at a party last weekend. All four were starters and were considered "leaders" of the team. Not only were they being foolish for the drinking itself, but could very well have damaged their chances for playing at the college level.

The school system introduced a proposed alcohol and drug testing program for athletes a few months ago that I think is going to take effect next school year. The proposal has been considered controversial but I think in general to be a good idea.

Man.  Us Christians would be piloried for being purotanical and "In everybody's business" if we even suggested such a thing.  

What if the accused takes the matter to a court of law?

I'm not a lawyer, nor have I played one on TV, but I'm not so sure that the courts are going to allow such a blatant and dangerous violation of an individual's basic civil right to face their accuser, hear the proof against them and to mount a defense.  At least let them mount a horse, for crying' out loud!

Teaching Elder posted:

What if the accused takes the matter to a court of law?

I'm not a lawyer, nor have I played one on TV, but I'm not so sure that the courts are going to allow such a blatant and dangerous violation of an individual's basic civil right to face their accuser, hear the proof against them and to mount a defense.  At least let them mount a horse, for crying' out loud!

They have that right.  The schools are governed by different rules and policies then the courts are.  A good school district will have a well defined discipline policy that includes appeals up to the school board.  If there is still a disagreement after that the parents/student can always turn to the courts for relief.  

As I mentioned before, unless you are the student who is accused of drinking, his family, or the administrator you do not have all the facts.  I do not work in a school system, but my wife is an administrator in the district we live in and in which my kids attend school.  We hear all the rumors and in a lot of cases know the actual facts.  I can tell you that 80% of the time the rumors going around, or the kids story that he tells his friends, does not match up to the actual facts.  Even when the school is being slammed pretty hard through rumors, or even in the press, they are prohibited from discussing any details of any incident.  It all has to do with maintaining the privacy rights of minor children. 

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