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My son got the “We want to see you again one more time early next summer.” I believe it was because by the end of July after soph year he was 6’ but down to 155. He started the season at 160. Early the following summer he was 6’1” 170. But he had bulked up and looked much bigger than 170. He was a lot stronger. His bat was quicker. He was hitting the ball harder and for much more power.

but I can't tell my son to give up on his dream school when he will have a final answer,  good or bad, by the end of next week!

Here's the thing...you can.

"Need to see him one more" time roughly translates two separate ways

a. We are going to give him one more chance to absolutely wow us - if it is anything similar to what we've already seen we are not going to offer

b. If Golden Arm doesn't give us his answer by next week we're going to have to offer Plan B when he comes to our camp next week.

When it comes to recruiting - unless they completely found him out of the blue - odds are your kid reached out to them, a travel coach reached out to them, or they saw him at a showcase and have been in touch since. The implication being that your son is interested in going there. Now that they have put their money where their mouth is - he doesn't know if he wants to go there?

I'm of the opinion that if there has been communication with a coaching staff the player needs to be doing their research. I think you should absolutely get a chance to see campus, the facilities, and hear an offer. But when you tell them you want to come there and they say come here you kind of need to say yes or it seems like you're holding out for something better (which is exactly what's happening).

At this stage of the game the only time I'd ask for is a few days to run the financial numbers with parents/check writers and a night to sleep on the decision. Anything more is a slap in the face.

Just remember - the school that has offered also has a kid they "need to see one more time". Don't risk one to possibly have neither

We had the same situation up until the last part. When the travel coach reached out to dream school to tell them the situation, they immediately scheduled a call and offered during that call. Dream school wanting to see him one more time may mean that they need to see something more. Your son has to be comfortable taking the risk of waiting.

You might be wanted, very rarely loved. How much you are "loved" or "wanted" will be determined by how far you can advance the program and the coach's career. 99.9 percent of the programs out there don't care about you as a person. Only what you can do for them.

You bring up a valid point, and I was referring more to the "love" during recruitment.  Possibly my son was in that .1% and he did feel very wanted and loved.   The university he attended went the extra recruiting mile in a couple areas and knew exactly the right buttons to push (a recruiting meeting with an Engineering Dean).   It was a very good fit.   

As you point out, "love" once in the program will be based primarily on the recruits contribution.   It is up to the player to take advantage of the opportunity.   This is even more so now with the supply glut of JUCO talent, high school players and transfer portal players.

Just my experience...

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