Travel ball, select, all-star, whatever you call it there is a lot good, and bad, that goes along with having a child involved. The pressure can easily corrupt the experience for both the kid and his family. The experience can give a kid the boost in self confidence that is so hard, if not impossible, to get otherwise. Often the paid coaches havn't yet had kids and therefor don't understand them or their families. Dad's are better at this. Dad's however, are biased, as well they should be. Good and Bad. Good and Bad. Good and Bad. Lot's of risks to deal with.
But this is what the LL/Pony kid is up against when he gets to freshman tryouts.
It is typical for our local high schools to get 65 to 85 freshmen at tryouts. There are roughly 10 "select" programs in the city that break down as follows:
2 dominating teams (they each play roughly 100 games per year)
2 very good teams with smaller "less pubescent" (they don't shave yet) but very good players
6 teams that are basically wannabees and at time seem clueless
The top 4 four teams absolutely do not do "Daddy ball". The philosophy is that it is preferable for "Daddy" to take a hike to the moon during the season. Those teams all have paid HS or experienced adult coaches and generally cost ~$1,200 per year minimum including the fund raising commitment. These coaches do not get involved with parents. (Some of my worst BB parent experiences have come as a result of this dictum being corrupted, as will almost certainly happen given enough time.)
Then there are all of the various LL and Pony "In house" league teams that don't play many games.
This is my sons sixth year playing for a top select team. It will be his third team (new team last year). He has played for 4 state championships on 2 teams.
Next year at HIS high school tryouts there will be 10 players that will have played for at least 1 of the top four teams for at least 1 season that I know of. Some of these kids will have played in close to 600 games, many local, regional and national tournaments along with all of the uncounted hours of individual and team practice. My sons experience includes 2 3rd place CABA World Series fininshes, 1 CABA World Series 2nd place finish (beat Puerto Rico in round robin and lost to them in finals), recipient of the "Hats Omachi Mr. Hustle Award" and, many tournament championships. In other words, he has been a part of a lot of very good first hand baseball experience and culture to bring to what ever team he is part of in the future. (Another of the kids at tryouts next year also won the same Mr. Hustle award at the following years CABA WS.)
So hear are my questions. How is the kid who played 18 to 35 LL/Pony games each of the last six years going to compete for a spot in high school? Are the ugly parts of the "select" ball experience worth the grief, dollars and, stress on the family to give the kid a very real leg up on his competition?
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