Baptism by fire.
The only way you will learn and develop the skill & confidence to pitch in tough situations is to have the opportunity. We hear a lot about the “5 tools” needed to play this game because they are relatively tangible physical properties that can be quantified. The 6th tool may be mental toughness. Like the 5 tools this is a moving target, i.e. you may have the mental toughness to be a great catcher or SS but not a pitcher. The game doesn’t start until the pitcher throws the ball and it takes a different breed of player to want the ball on the bump. I know a lot of stud, X tool players, that have the ability, but no interest in taking the mound. Mental abilities (i.e. toughness) manifest themselves only through trial. How do you develop mental toughness? Some kids are better suited than others just by individual make up. It is imposable to identify who has the mental toughness to pitch at 11/12. IMHO a lot of coaches, coaching at this age, may believe a “stud” player will make a great pitcher and that isn’t always the case. Give the kid opportunity in a game situation and then stay positive! 100 positive comments can be torn down by 1 negative. They need to overcome the fear of failure. Let him know that this is a game of mistakes (as is life), that he can or has permission to screw up. If he does get into trouble you will come out and get him (off the mound), that this is a TEAM sport, and that there are a number of team-mate that will “pick him up”. One exercise my son got into the habit of doing, as a young player, was while lying in bed, just before he went to sleep, he would “ZEN”, in his “mind’s eye”, visualize succeeding in tough situations. I think he picked this up from zen-master Phil Jackson when he was in Chicago coaching the Bulls' 6 NBA titles. Many are called, few are chosen….. Good Luck.
GO CHANTS