First I am not a TROLL. I am a medium time poster here and I am posting anonymously for a reason. This is serious request for opinions.
Here is the situation. My son, plays for a High School program that has not been very successful over the past 7 years.(time coach has been there) They are marginally competitive, and have never had a winning season in this period of time. The facilities and infrastructure were deteriorating when he started at the school, so myself and a few other parents started a booster club from scratch to generate funds to help out the program. We are now in our fourth year and we have put back into the program quite a lot. We have redone both the JV and Varsity fields, rebuilt dugouts, put in a Varsity club house, new nets, batting cages, bullpens, sound system, field maintenance equipment, etc. The place is not super fancy, but now is a clean respectable place to play baseball. We have also implemented a stipend for all of the assistant coaches. All of this has been done unconditionally and I (we that I know of) have never, not once, said a thing about how the program was run on the field. In the back of my mind I thought that as we improved the conditions that the program would improve along with the playing conditions. I guess I should have known better, but the program continues to flounder, which is not really the main problem just a reflection in my opinion.
I am not really that concerned about the win/loss record other than it is, like I said, a reflection on how the program is run. The problem is that the kids are not treated with respect and dignity. They are put down and criticized for their play, and as far as I can tell never encouraged or given positive reinforcement. If a player makes an error he is pulled. What happens is that the team usually starts off competitive in the early season and then it fades at the end, and toward the end there is no life left in the kids and they typically lose the last 4-6 games. My son is a three-year Varsity starter, and I noticed the slide in his first year, and thought it was odd. In his second year I thought it was a bit of a coincidence, and now in his third year I see that it is no accident, the kids are beat down and the Seniors in particular just want to get out of there. None of the kids appear to be having any fun and the dugout is like a morgue.
I started looking into this a bit more and I have found that the lower levels of the program is relatively successful. The freshmen and the JV program typically do well, usually they have winning seasons, sometimes not, but sometimes they are quite successful. It is a medium sized public school with decent feeder programs, and has a social economic mix that would make you think that over a extended period of time it would have a few up years and a few down years. The other Varsity sports programs in the school follow this trend. They have championship seasons, and they have down years. The best run program (IMO) in the school is always competitive, regardless of the players. My son has also played in this program, and IMO it is not an accident that they are successful year in and year out. The head coach and all of his assistants are class acts.
After observing this I have started to ask my son about his coaching and what he thought about the program. He has told me that he can’t stand the coaches and can’t wait for the season to be done. He is a baseball-coholic and has played for all kinds of teams, from some of the best in our area, and on some not very competitive teams. In all cases he has had fun, except at his HS. After talking with him about it I started to ask a few of the other Sr parents about their opinion about the program, every one I asked had the same comments regarding the coaching. I have run into a few former players around town and have asked them about their experiences and they have more of less said the same thing. The could not stand the coaches by the time they graduated all they wanted to do was get out and move on.
So here is my dilemma. What do I do about it? Do I just walk away and say nothing? Do I go and talk to the head coach ? Do I go to the AD ? Do I get a group of parents and go talk to the AD?
Right now my thinking is to set up a private meeting with the AD and go though my observations about the program, go through my above reasoning, and suggest he talk to other parents, players, current and former, maybe some of the lower level coaches and leave it at this. I don’t think it will do any good to talk to the head coach, as the only thing that this will accomplish is to create tension between him and myself and maybe some of the boosters. I really don’t want to start an insurrection with a bunch of other parents.
I think that the boosters should remain committed and supportive unconditionally and stay out of the on field activities, other than making sure their son’s are safe and treated with respect. If any other parents ask me about the situation I am going to suggest they talk to the AD on their own.
By doing it this way I believe I can walk away from the program with my conscious clear, proud of the improvements I helped make, and also put the AD on notice that there is a problem and let him deal with it as he sees fit.
I would like some thoughts on the subject and any comments from posters who have experienced the same thing.
Thanks
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