First, I'll apologize if this get lengthy.
I can only relate what our experience has been and the path we set out with our son who is a '15. With the help of the great advise from this board and others who have progressed through this journey before us, we set a goal to have our son "flatten out the roller coaster" and not commit until the end of his junior year. Even though "early commitments" are relatively new to college baseball and there is not a clear cut process as of yet, we were determined to not let the pressure change our course. We had one person tell us, "senior money is more valuable than junior money" and another sage individual explain to our son that "he was betting on himself" and to trust that he would become more valuable. I'll have to admit it was scary at times but we listened and stuck to the plan. I even had one individual tell me that early commitments, as of present, were new territory and he had never seen anything like it, only to say that our path was unique and he hoped it worked out for us. I could only smile at the contradiction.
First we had to identify the "dream school" or what it was. Was it a school that mom or dad had attended? Was it a top 25 program that continually made a deep run in the playoffs or frequented Omaha? We didn’t want our affinity for our alma mater to be a deciding factor. We want him to fall in love with the school he would spend the next four years, for the next 50 years of his life. We were fortunate that some of these schools were pursuing our son and it started during his sophomore year in High School. We were just determined to have our son take his time and not feel pressured or rushed. Some would say that we had that luxury, but it started with just one "dream" school. Although apprehensive, we felt confident others would come and we decided we wanted to let him discover what that "dream school" was. We just asked him to give himself time to hear all offers, get to know the coaches, attend a practice if possible and communicate often to establish a relationship. Watching him grow and develop those relationship was part of the fun for my wife and me. We also felt comfortable communicating our plan to the coaches. Some tried to pressure or seemed impatient, but they all respected we had a plan and all agreed they'd wait. At times he would become antsy because many of his summer teammates or other prospects he knew had committed and he was afraid he’d be left out. We just tried to encourage him to stay the course and trust the process. Many coaches will tell you they only have so many spots, and although this is true to an extent, after researching the process, I came to the conclusion (right or wrong) that it was near impossible for them to know exactly what they'd have 12 months from now. There is early draft entry, players injured or leave the program or signees that never make it to campus. Money always becomes available for a strong prospect. Schools want you to believe they hold all the cards, but they don’t. We were determined to stay in charge. We also had a certain comfort that if our plan was flawed, JUCO was the last out. That also became a barometer for measuring schools. Would he go the JUCO route before committing to a certain 4yr. school.
Although he may have had his clear cut favorites and thought he wanted to play in a certain conference, the time he took allowed him to discover what his dream school would be or become. I’ll tell you right now, it wasn’t one that he or my wife and I would have ever imagined. It also gave us time to see this years signing class and for him to eliminate some schools for the practice of over signing. That was a huge eye opener for him. It also allowed him to develop those relationships and discover that he fell in love with certain coaching staffs at schools that he had previously discounted. Although I would have loved for him to wear the uniform of my alma mater, and he certainly had that chance, we became very impressed and comfortable with the coaching staff, university and community of several schools that I wouldn’t have thought my son would ever wear the uniform for. Had he committed to any one of them at the time, we would have been very happy. But taking his time allowed for one school to get involved and become his clear cut dream school.
Having said all that, all I can say is have a clear plan, try not to waver from it, don’t be pressured and trust in your sons ability. Have a back up plan that may not be as glamorous but will ultimately set him on the right course for him to continue his dream. Be comfortable in your plan. If he has talent, they need and want him. Be realistic with his ability and bet on your son not the school. The right "dream" school will be discovered.
I can now say I need to change my screen name to CARDDAD19.
Eventhough it's earlier than we originally expected, my wife and I are beyond ecstatic to say our son has committed to play baseball at a school that, thanks to the process, became a dream but more importantly, a reality. Stanford University