My son is asking for advice on how to handle coach/situation.
This is his 3rd yr as a Varsity Pitcher he is a Junior has had a under 2.50 ERA since he is 14 years old. Which includes his summer elite travel teams. He has been seen often with PG and ranked in the top 500 and has very good said about him. Well this year he has another new coach for HS ball which has decided that his travel team of freshman and sophomores are deserving of being Varsity instead of the Juniors and Seniors.
Well the advice needed is My son had his first start yesterday against the team of friends/summer travel team. He pitched OK had 7 strikeouts in 3 innings but the balls that were hit went to outfield and the freshman do not know how to track balls. It was a 390 field with the wind blowing out. Coach had the kids playing about 300 feet. So you know what that means run 10 ft either side and 80 feet behind you. Just not a possibility. Six balls to same spot in 3 innings so son got 6 earned run since each kid got a triple out of their hits.
Also, my son hit a homerun in the 3rd inning.
Well now where the advice is needed. After game coach required kids to sit for 2 innings of next game (JV were playing) We asked coach if we could take son home so he could ice his arm (game was an hour from home) Coach said that was fair and said okay.
But then proceeded to insult us (parents) on how son needs to hit his spots better and that's why we lost the game. He threw 54 pitches and 11 balls total. With 7 strikeouts. Had a homerun. that's how the coach responds to the game. So we just turned around and walked away shaking our heads. The coach then ran after us (parents) and said we had to change our attitutde or he will have to punish our son. We are just starting our season and my son is already extremely frustrated not having fun. The coach has the kids at practise nightly and weekend for 5 hours a night. My son is quite frustrated but loves the game. He is really torn right now as to what he should do. Just tough it out and let the coach be a jerk or walk away and just get ready for summer ball? There really is no talent on the team. Perhaps the freshman sophomore might be good in a couple years but this coach does not seeem to be there for the right reason except to glorify his boys and tell them home much they (***X). I just don't think threats etc belong in HS ball. The coach should be respected I agree with that but should it not go both ways? After 6 games we are 2-4
Should my sons speak up we have taught him not to. That is respect. But what do you do when a coach is really not respectful to adults or kids. Personally since this guys is a teacher I wonder what he does in a class room. Rather scary.
Yes I know this post sounds whiny I just still very upset that I need to bow down to this coach because he says to. If I have an opionion I can verbalize it to my husband not to coach or other parents. And I will walk away when I don't like what I am hearing when someone is criticizing my family.
I know some/most of you will just tell me stay out of it. But in HS ball I need to trust the person in charge. My son is still my son no one has more authority over him than I do. So that's my question for advice. My son is not happy has no respect and has a future in D1 baseball. What should he do?
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