Big just figured out he can't win against the ladies! See....they can be taught!
Hmmmmmm, hits close to home?
Now I know I am not the only psychotic one around here.
If you didn't make the list, don't be offended,
I didn't either AND baseonballs will handle it just fine!
Back to topic anyone?
Now I know I am not the only psychotic one around here.
If you didn't make the list, don't be offended,
I didn't either AND baseonballs will handle it just fine!
Back to topic anyone?
If the shoe fits.
on and on and on.
on and on and on.
As I helped to divert, I will go back to topic, with our experience. (Gee, fun time over so soon? )
Until such time as a coach/recruiter/scout wants to talk to the parent, it's immaterial which parent is there. First, the player has to show his stuff.
If they have a choice, they will approach the father.
When they talk to a Mother and she shows any degree of savvy, comment will be made 9 times out of 10. (I'm pretty much willing to bet there are darn few Dad who have heard "I've never talked to a Dad who knew baseball".)
Is it a disadvantage? No...might even be an advantage as it makes the boy a little different and therefore that bit more memorable.
When it comes time to make visits, if it's Mom only going along, do remember that your son should take the lead in questions and answers --- it's his visit. And mind what you say, because at this point it can be a slight disadvantage...you don't want to give the impression that there will be any difficulty with your son being away at college because he's "Mommy's Boy". Of the four choices, I would imagine Mom alone with son is the least frequent, and therefore will put the coach on a slightly different footing (maybe he thinks about his language more carefully, maybe he emphasizes living conditions more than on-field because that what he thinks she wants to hear, etc.). Reality is that these guys live in an all-male world and dealing with a woman throws them to some degree.
Actually, after the first one, your son may well want to make the visits on his own, whichever and how many parents attend. But that's another discussion.
)Until such time as a coach/recruiter/scout wants to talk to the parent, it's immaterial which parent is there. First, the player has to show his stuff.
If they have a choice, they will approach the father.
When they talk to a Mother and she shows any degree of savvy, comment will be made 9 times out of 10. (I'm pretty much willing to bet there are darn few Dad who have heard "I've never talked to a Dad who knew baseball".)
Is it a disadvantage? No...might even be an advantage as it makes the boy a little different and therefore that bit more memorable.
When it comes time to make visits, if it's Mom only going along, do remember that your son should take the lead in questions and answers --- it's his visit. And mind what you say, because at this point it can be a slight disadvantage...you don't want to give the impression that there will be any difficulty with your son being away at college because he's "Mommy's Boy". Of the four choices, I would imagine Mom alone with son is the least frequent, and therefore will put the coach on a slightly different footing (maybe he thinks about his language more carefully, maybe he emphasizes living conditions more than on-field because that what he thinks she wants to hear, etc.). Reality is that these guys live in an all-male world and dealing with a woman throws them to some degree.
Actually, after the first one, your son may well want to make the visits on his own, whichever and how many parents attend. But that's another discussion.
Two very important points, Orlando.
The first point was really emphasized for grins.
In our case the coach asked about mom's input on a variety of points and told my son we would need to bring mom for a visit. (No, it ain't free.)
Moms were no problem for him.
Remember, the coaches have done this a few times. Our questions were answered before we asked. Relax and listen. If you are there, they are likely very interested in your son playing for them and they want to do everything they can to get you there. They are SMARTER than they get categorized on this web site! (Speaking of D1 level, anyway. They don't get to that level without being good.)
(Didn't want mom to be able to raise objections and wanted to learn how much input she would have.)
After the visit, I told my son he would have been fine by himself and, if, we had made a visit to another school, he would have handled it. There was no need for me to have gone. But you have to go to the first one to learn that.
On this site, so much of the fear about the process gets expressed. We all want to control, but looking back it really to care of itself.
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Reality is that these guys live in an all-male world and dealing with a woman throws them to some degree.
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Actually, after the first one, your son may well want to make the visits on his own, whichever and how many parents attend. But that's another discussion.
The first point was really emphasized for grins.
In our case the coach asked about mom's input on a variety of points and told my son we would need to bring mom for a visit. (No, it ain't free.)
Moms were no problem for him.
Remember, the coaches have done this a few times. Our questions were answered before we asked. Relax and listen. If you are there, they are likely very interested in your son playing for them and they want to do everything they can to get you there. They are SMARTER than they get categorized on this web site! (Speaking of D1 level, anyway. They don't get to that level without being good.)
(Didn't want mom to be able to raise objections and wanted to learn how much input she would have.)
After the visit, I told my son he would have been fine by himself and, if, we had made a visit to another school, he would have handled it. There was no need for me to have gone. But you have to go to the first one to learn that.
On this site, so much of the fear about the process gets expressed. We all want to control, but looking back it really to care of itself.
and here I thought all this time if the mom went with her plate of cookies for the coach it would help get her son noticed...I sure am glad you all set that straight 
Seroiusly the advantage of mom going is you get out of al that housework, laundry, dishes etc..(or at least you get out of it till you get back home)....
Seroiusly the advantage of mom going is you get out of al that housework, laundry, dishes etc..(or at least you get out of it till you get back home)....
Sampb - LOL 
Nice try, but I'm not biting...
Sincerely,
UR 'yes I do bleach the home uni' KMB
Nice try, but I'm not biting...
Sincerely,
UR 'yes I do bleach the home uni' KMB
ok you don't have to bite as long as you promise me should we ever met at a game don't bring those jar of pennies..that noise gives me a headache evey time ....hey just had a though maybe if you gave that jar of pennies to the coach...see thats why the mom goes she has the money
Pm back at you kid...