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JB...
Great post. Thanks.
And Amen to your observations. They are great wisdom to all of us with sons off to college and prophetic observations to those on the way up...right you are...the times they certainly are a changin'. For example wrote this in my Xmas newsletter..."...finding it difficult to badger college coaches from 600 miles away..."
Along the lines of this thread....With the impossible step up from a tiny rural school to a top 50 DI, his is turning out to be a very interesting and very good story (and I love a good story..). While I will save the "son specific" details of the struggle for another post, I'll take your particular parental themed post to the next logical step, here is my current view/role as a parent. I hope it is a perspective that may be of value to others....
Yes, my role has changed...While I am always available, interested, and suggesting....He has non-verbally asked us to keep our distance..as a result I have purposely and respectfully kept my distance in order to let him have his run without my interference, or hand holding. Adimttedly though, I frequently and repeatedly catch myself trying desperately to connect too closely.
From my place at home, I am very sad as I have gone from being an active participant to be being a spectator, but am fascinated and in wonder 600 miles away, in my chair with a clicker, a computer and a cell phone, watching the boy becoming a man...and the kind of man I can respect and admire.
As I had hoped, despite the freshman struggles, he is beautifully controlling those things that he can: attitude, effort, fitness, perspective, grades, friendships, and not overly fretting the things that he can't: PT, perceptions, lack of speed and velocity, roomates, lack of sleep, inclusion on travel team, the struggles with changing mechanics, the unexpected addition of pitching duties.
It has always been my highest desire for him to experience the feeling and learning process afforded a college athlete. As you understand, the process has not been easy for any of us, but the experiences good and bad, the ups and downs he has already had in 4 months, the lessons he has learned, the experience for parents and player has been everything we had expected and more. I am here to tell you that is worth every dollar, every hour and stuggle, every sacrifice we made over the last 15 years.
JB, as the old year ends, the new one begins and baseball approaches I look forward to sharing our perceptions our thoughts and our stories. Thanks for being out there for all of us....