What to do about H.S. coach who allows players to drink, chew and smoke?

TPMHSBaseballweb Member since 2003

Originally Posted by 2017LHPscrewball:

TPM - you point out some valid disortions. Below are a few of my pet peeves so to speak - please add your own:

Would you rather your 16yo drink a 12oz light beer or a 24 oz megacaff supersugar drink with an iron maiden on the label costing $3.50? Please note if your answer is based on the relative health issues or legal issues.

Would you rather your 16yo smoke cigarattes, pot or vape (?) some cotton candy flavored mist apparently containing formaldahyde? Again, health or legal basis for answer.

Does your 16yo son have a copy of the recent SI swimsuit issue? Am at a loss what they are going to do next year. I wonder what the principal at my school would have done if they found a picture like that in my locker.

What happened to driving at 16 being a privledge (can I borrow the car) turning into the expectation of a new set of wheels on the actual bday? I can maybe live with a set of wheels, but a new set.

On the first two I choose light beer and pot based on health issues but go with megacaff and vape for legal reasons.

The beer. I have no issue with that but I do have issues after a "few" beers and then getting into a car. We always told kids, please call us for a ride home, we wont be mad.

The weed, it wont kill you.

Don't all guys read the SI issue? Its the Playboy replacement. Now keep this in mind, young girls (very) of today were less than more. NG

Son at 16 got the hand me down as did daughter, you learn to drive be responsible and you will be rewarded, but no, you are NOT getting a new car.

FYI, my older brother got a corvette, my younger brother a GTO, I got a Rambler.

I drove better than them both.

3/20/159:15 PM

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CoachB25Honorary "Old TImer"

Originally Posted by RJM:

Originally Posted by CoachB25:

Wow, I'm biting my tongue on some of this $%^&. As an FYI, my daughter plays college softball and she and vast majority of her teammates have boyfriends. In fact, probably all but 2 have boyfriends. I guess stereotyping is in.

Why is it that we can't believe our child or "are fooling ourselves" if they tell us they don't drink or do drugs? Is there the slightest chance that there are good kids out there that obey their parents and do what they are supposed to do like follow a Code of Conduct?

I'd better stop before I really get going.

It's not a stereotype. A NCAA poll of D1 female athletes about ten years ago determined about 40% are lesbians. That's high compared to every day life. When I told my daughter it was 40% her response was "That low?" There were girls from the travel team who transferred due to sexual harassment from teammates.

My daughter had a boyfriend from soph year on. She told him to be very visible. She's married to him now. I never worried about what someone thought about her sexuality because she played three high school sports and college softball. My daughter is 5'10". If it comes up in conversation and I get a funny look I'll tell the person she's married now.

Once the boundaries were established my daughter didn't have any issues with the sexuality of her teammates. She socialized with them based on being teammates and friends.

If you don't mind, help me with my search of that research. I have tried just about every type of search and have not produced one study with those numbers. In fact, in looking for that research, I have come across several links that have said that this is a stereotype and not accurate. In our experience and with the girls I have coached at multiple colleges, that hasn't been the case.

3/20/1510:23 PM